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I'm very confused. I've been dating this guy for about two months (although we've only seen each other about once a week, we've both been travelling on weekends and are busy). We had a fantastic weekend. We hung out by the pool, he took me out to dinner, and we hung out with my friends. We do have sex, but that's definitely not what our interactions revolve around, and it doesn't happen every time.

On Sunday, after spending the day with my friends, he seemingly randomly told me that he has so much respect for me but doesn't want to hurt me and wanted me to know that he's not looking for anything serious right now. I was kind of thrown off and thought he meant he wasn't looking for anything serious EVER with me, but then he mentioned that he felt it was 'too soon' and that we haven't actually hung out that much. I agreed that it's too soon so put a label on anything, we like each other but we're still getting to know each other. He left because he already had plans with his friend and then said he'd come back if I was up to hanging out. He ended up not coming back because my stomach went sour. The next day I asked him if he wanted to go to the gym with me and he said yes, so we went and he just seemed kinda nervous around me, and then when we were leaving he invited me to get a smoothie so we did.

It's not completely abnormal for us to not text every day, but it feels off after that weird conversation. I haven't heard from him since Monday. There's a possibilty he's not texting because he knows I had a couple exams this week, but I'm not really the type of person to stop talking to someone when I'm busy.

Also, thought I'd add, I've also met his friends and he regularly asks about mine and really likes them.

Thoughts on this? I have this sinking feeling he's going to ghost because it's happened to me before.

*Summary*: guy takes me on dates, likes friends, I like his friends, still went out with me after saying he's not ready for something serious

So I went on a first date with this guy the other day. It was the best date that I'd had in my life. It was everything that you would want. We laughed and got along really nicely. He took me to one of his favorite home-cooking restaurants and ate the parts of the meal that I didn't like. We rode the train together and he protected me from the large crowd of people. We got drinks, I can't drink so well and he knows that- but we still each had two shots of tequila. Then we went and sang stupid songs at karaoke. By this time, we realized that the last train had already left. We were in Tokyo and I live in the prefecture over, about an hour and a half by car, taking a taxi wasn't an option since it would end up costing around 150USD. We decided sharing a hotel together would be the cheapest option since neither of us lived close enough, and it was much cheaper. Around 30USD for each of us. We slept together at the hotel and I lost my virginity, but it's not like he knew that. We stayed in the room until noon the next day and then went our separate ways, before that he kissed me and told me that he would see me again soon. I believed him. We talked for a couple days since then but today something suspicious happened. I texted him "I hope everything goes well with your school." he responded. "Thanks you too, I hope you enjoy your remaining days in Japan." (I have over a month). I thought that seemed like a goodbye message so I sent another to see if he really intended to end the conversation. He did. No response came, even though he read it. Then I skipped to assumptions. Did he meet me with the intention to sleep with me? Did he take us out to drinks on purpose, knowing I can't drink well? Did he miss the train on purpose? I became very suspicious because I would have never slept with him if I thought I wouldn't meet him again, especially since it was my first time. Some friends say he may have interpreted my message wrong... Did he use me for sex?