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10 years ago I was in the middle of a love triangle. My a friend from high school liked me and I conceded that I had a crush on her but was unsure of a relationship. I went to college. Dated a new girl briefly. When my high school friend found out she was furious! She swore never to talk to me again. And she didn't. For 10 years.

I reached out to her best friend to find out how to make amends. I had never met her before. Her best friend joked that her friend could get emotional. We laughed it off. Next thing you know, we meet, there is an intense connection, she asks my friend if we can date. The friend agrees. And we date for 6 months. We are both in different colleges and it is long distance. I then move out of state so we break up. A year later we rekindle things, but I am away on business. It is long distance. Then after a near sex experience (I had never lost my virginity)... she dumps me.

10 years later, the friend is my coworker. We rekindle our friendship. My presumption is that she tells my ex girlfriend (her best friend still) details of me and what is new in my life. I admitted to my high school friend that I was coming to terms with being sexually abused as a kid at the time that I dated her best friend (my ex). I told her that it impacted who I was during my relationship (made me act strange in intimacy). Since then I've gotten help and Im a lot better.

I wrote a short fiction story. It was selected for a public reading at a bar. I invite my high school friend (now coworker) to come. I tell her that she can invite anybody and rattle off names of coworkers. Instead, she sends me a text at 12 a. m. asking if my ex-girlfriend can come see me read my story.

I haven't seen my ex-girlfriend in 10 years and she was the first person I fell in love with. What's the dealio here? By the way, the short story I will end up reading in 2 days in front of them? A romance... Oh boy! Haha..

So I turned 18 fairly resonantly and never had a real relationship even though I really wanted one for SO SO LONG. I’m shy and introverted though and only have a few close friends and that’s because of social anxiety due to severe bullying back when I was younger and never fitting in with others at school. Anyway at this point I’d give absolutely anything just to have a pretty girl to wrap her in my arms, snuggle with, talk to about my day, kiss her, have an intercourse with her (if she’s comfortable with it of course) etc. People say I have so much love and empathy in my heart waiting to be passed on to others but at the present moment only people I can think of giving it to are pretty girls as they are my #1 Priority and I’d do anything I can to make a girl feel loved but if I find her and the intensity is released on only focusing on girls then yes I’ll give it to other people too. The thought of so many other people YOUNGER than me being able to go a lot farther in terms of being sexually active and stuff makes me so depressed, feel so low and want to self harm. Sometimes I think of giving myself a 3rd degree burn (please don’t judge) because I feel an urge too. Haven’t gone that far yet and yes I know I’ll need skin graphs if I do it. (Not only dating I also have a couple bad phobias too and yes I have been seeing a therapist).

Anyway bottom line is that I wanted to ask if it was normal for someone my age in my position (never having a girlfriend once and really wanting one) to be so girl crazy where all he ever thinks of is wrapping a girl in his arms, will do absolutely anything for one and gets so depressed thinking of others having it especially those who don’t deserve it. Ex. Those who just want sex.

"There's something wonderful about a man chasing a woman," he said. "There's a traditional approach to that, which is nice. I think a woman should be wooed and chased, but maybe I'm old-fashioned for thinking that."

"It's very difficult to do that if there are certain rules in place," Cavill said.

"Because then it's like: 'Well, I don't want to go up and talk to her, because I'm going to be called a rapist or something'," he said. "So you're like, 'Forget it, I'm going to call an ex-girlfriend instead, and then just go back to a relationship, which never really worked'. But it's way safer than casting myself into the fires of hell, because I'm someone in the public eye, and if I go and flirt with someone, then who knows what's going to happen?"

This is what he said... Do you guys think this statement has some merit to it?