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I haven't talked to him in 35 days and counting and changed my phone number. He hasn't seen me or my child for months. He's NOT on child support and I have NO intentions of putting him on child support. In the PAST I was thinking about putting him on child support but then I realized that would be a big mistake. He's abusive, toxic and would damage my child mind, if I put him on child support that would require a paternity test and once it's proven that it's his child he can get visitation and I want to avoid that.

Sorry this is long. Basically he messaged me on Okcupid, says that I’m really beautiful, we’re in each other’s age range (I’m 36, he’s 41 and says he wants a girl my age) and supposedly I have everything he was looking for in a woman. The problem was I really wasn’t feeling any interest for him after reading his profile, and he lived to far away from me (I’m on Long Island, he’s in NYC and kinda want someone who is also on the island that I don’t have to commute to date). I sent him a polite message (that’s very sweet of you but I don’t think we’d be a good match). He sends me two long paragraphs in return saying he doesn’t understand, that I should give him a chance, that I might change my mind once I get to know him, that I’m already 36 and not going to get many more chances then begs me to reconsider because he wants to leave the city and saw getting involved with someone like me as the perfect escape from New York, that he wanted us to pick out our future hometown together and said that he was really shocked because I sounded so nice in my profile. I apologized again, told him not to send me anymore messages and blocked him. So tonight (about three weeks later), I get another message from him (from another account he created) telling me he still really wants to get to know me, he still wants me to get to know him then gives me his phone number and begs me to call him because we’re both on that site looking for partners and he could be the “perfect partner for me but I don’t know it because I’m not giving him a chance”. I told him to stop messaging me and leave me alone. I was with two friends when I got this message. One told me that I did the right thing because he sounded really desperate and the other friend told me that I’m not getting any younger (which I’m not) and he sounds really interested. She says I should overlook the differences and the distance and date him, so now I’m feeling really bad. What do you all think?

We were in an abusive tumultuous relationship. All he did was abuse me in different forms, be on dating sites, look at other women in front of me and was still in love with his ex that he was still talking to while we were together. I also found out from his ex he was trying to get back with her while I was pregnant by him. He hates and resents me supposedly but wanted to talk on the phone for hours with me, got jealous and accused me of messing with guys AFTER we broke up. Long story short I moved out from his house in Feb 2020 (same month I gave birth to our baby) and moved two hours away with my mom and changed my number. I recently changed my number and it's been 23 days and counting I haven't talked to him. I wonder if he misses me or has any regrets for hurting me? This is the longest I haven't contacted him. And he hasn't seen our baby or me in 4 months (but he's not helping financially anyway)

I haven't contacted him in 22 days and he hasn't seen our child in 4 months. The last time he reached out to me I didn't reply to his texts or take his phone calls, shortly after I changed my number. He was verbally, mentally and physically abusive. He said he resented me but would ask if I'm talking to guys and spend hours on the phone with me after our breakup. He was also still in love with his ex while he begged to be in a relationship with me and got me pregnant.

I just went on a huge online stalking spree to make sure I could never find out something new about my more recent ex again (I think I was successful).

My friends stayed at my place this weekend and they all know that I’m a crack when it comes to figuring out everything there is to know about people.
My best friends‘ sister wanted a demonstration, so I showed her how you can go from a not-too-generic first name and a hobby all the way to a birth date and sometimes a phone number (works in Central Europe because it’s small), but that wasn’t enough because she knew I didn’t care about that too much.

They had been pressuring me to show them what my most recent ex looked like and I caved. I was very surprised to find a picture I had never seen before, I didn’t want to look at the context more when they were around, but I think they got the message; there’s nothing exciting to find, just two old (2008) low quality group pictures, his birth date, some athletic achievements and his former work place.

I felt bad about myself for looking into this more today, but at the same time, I now feel like I know enough about him to say with 80% certainty that he votes for the SVP (most right-wing Swiss party) which is a reason to dislike him to some extent. To me, that’s a small win.
I don’t know what to feel.

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