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So I used my knowledge of numerology to translate my birth date into a semantic message and I got (word for word)

AFTERWARD COMPLETELY DEDICATE TO ESTABLISHING POWER

I thought power as in possessing wisdom, and knowledge, and understanding, and discernment, and judgment, and glory, and popularity and wealth, and beauty. All of these things I believe I can accomplish.

I also used my knowledge of numerology to translate the birth date of the guy that I'm interested in and I got

sanctification & edification & assist (This means he will encourage, lift up and help a woman with her emotional, spiritual and psychological development)

Can you give me advice on how to make myself more "powerful" Is "power" the thing that makes men fall in love with you?

I have been trying to champion acceptance and tolerance for gender differences, but there is one thing I have to side with the fellas on is the whole "Guess what I want in my loaded question or attitude" thing.

Now the “Do I look fat” question I get—we all want appreciation and validation from our love partners.

What I am talking about is a whole different animal.

Seriously many ladies is they seldom say what they mean in relationships. I even dated a couple of girls (very, very briefly) that were always playing mind games. It was like "Guess what I want or I will be mad."

Far too often I got the "silent treatment" and it was enough to have me trot out the "lets be friends speech." Of course, if they asked why I broke it off, I told them, which often ended up with us not being friends...*shrugs*

I never had this issue--in fact--I found my honesty often scared dudes off. If I liked you, I called the next day. I figured, hey, I am not talking about picking out wedding rings, just showing I enjoyed and liked spending time with you--I mean, isn't that what you want to know after a date?

For every guy who was skittish about my response, assuming it meant I was desperate, there were those who liked the fact I was up front and didn’t play games.

Now, for sure, honesty can get yah in trouble, especially when it comes to someone who is as opinionated as I am, and yes, there are a few men who say they want some mystery. Perhaps it is this mixed signal of "Be honest but don't tell me too much" that makes women want to play coy? Heck, I dunno.

But I just can’t stand the whole “Guess what I am thinking/feeling/saying” routine.

Every time I see a chick flick where a girl goes off a on a guy because he didn't get her 101 clues about something she wanted, I want to scream (which is why I rarely watch chick flicks.)

I even knew one woman who told me that if her and her man is supposed to be soul mates, of one mind and one accord, then he should know what she wants.

I was like, "Uhm--what?"

Yet another said that it could be because women feel men won’t understand her needs if she tries to explain what she wants outright. I find men do understand where I am coming from—I simply introduce concepts in a language they understand. All men are different mind you, but like with the hubby, he is a computer techie type, so I try to get a bit technical and less flowery and emotional in my wording—it works. Men care—you just have to see what works best for communicating—it is an individual thing and will take work. With practice it falls into place.



I know there is a subtle psychology to this but I do not comprehend it -- I don’t think it is simply because women want to play games--maybe they are getting some kind of signal from the dating game that makes this seem necessary.

Guys/girls--I want a few ideas tossed out here--this has always been a thing that has had me nonplussed about my fellow gender...

One love.

Believe it or not, I have even run into men who think this way too (this one friend of mine in particular comes to mind. He was so in love with his girl that he kept trying to get her to get off birth control so they could have an "accident". Yeah, they broke up.)...

But usually it is the woman who falls prey to this type of faulty thinking.

Now, I just asked a question in relation to men trying to claim they were trapped when they do not use protection during sex and a pregnancy results.

To that end I say, guys, do not leave your reproductive destiny to anyone, least of all the woman you are sleeping with. By using a condom keep it wrapped so you don't get trapped.

But as far as chicks go, how fair is it to bring a child in the world as a means to an end? The child will come with needs and responsibilities that go far beyond your agendas.

A wise woman once told me that when a marriage is strong a baby will strengthen it--when it is weak, a child will only destroy it.

My hubby and I are a case in point. We were crazy in love before the baby and when she did come he was overjoyed--she has filled our lives with pure joy and I have never seen a more doting father or a stronger father/daughter relationship.

On the flipside, if a marriage or relationship is crumbling, do you think a crying, wailing, financially draining bundle of energy is gonna make things better?

There are so many unwanted children in the world--how many times will we turn on the TV and hear about some child being killed by their parents?

Stop the madness. Bring a child into a loving strong and vibrant relationship--don't have a kid in attempt to "save" something that may be doomed to begin with...

It's not fair to the child, to you or to your man.

Some things just come to an end--let the relationship die a merciful death, work on yourself a bit, then try to find a man who will love to have kids as much as you do. In that way, you can provide an loving healthy environment for that child to thrive.