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Hey there and thanks for reading,

I started seeing a guy for a month now. He is really handsome and we have lots of things in common. He messages me everyday and is very affectionate ( he cups my face when he kisses me, caresses my hair a lot, kisses me in the forehead and gives me little kisses everywhere) We've been on six dates and in the last one we had sex. He was super sweet. While we were having sex, he asked me what I was thinking, he stared at my eyes and searched for my hand. He also kissed my forehead. After the sex, I said I had to leave so I cuddle with him and left after fifteen minutes or so. He didn't offer me to stay. However, that was two days ago and he still messages me normally, we talk about music and books that we like, like always. He hasn't mentioned the sex and neither have I.

The catch is that we're both seing other people and we talked about this since the beggining. He is very rational and says that he doesn't want to get into a relationship until he is convinced. He also mentioned that he falls into relationships and that he doesn't plan them. I was cool with that since I'm also seeing other guys and seeing what happens.

But! on the fifth date, I asked him out to go out on Saturday and he said he was seing a girl that he mentioned is his friends with benefits. I freaked out a bit although I knew about this since day one. It was an unexcpected reaction. I told him I coudln't have sex with him since he was having sex with another girl. He said that he didn't wanted to ruin things, that he liked me and enjoyed spending time with me. We kind of left it at that and kissed at the end of the date like nothing had happened.

In the six date we had sex, we didn't mentioned anything about me freaking out about him sleeping with other girl. Or my willingness to sleep with him now. It just happened.

What do you guys think?

In one hand, I think he likes me because he is very affectionate, seems very interested in getting to know me better and its very respectful of what I think. However, he might just want to have his cake and eat it too.

Thanks a lot. Sorry for the long post.

I have a friends with benefits and although I can I haven't really slept with anyone else, more so because I work 50 hours a week but also because he is really good. Anyway, he's been suspicious lately ever since I started working again. He will make jokes that are obviously a little more than jokes for example I am sick and he says "maybe you should stop kissing so many men at your work". And at first I just laughed but all of his jokes are about the same thing, me sleeping or being with someone else. I'm starting to get the feeling he is trying to make me admit to sleeping with someone else without being direct because we aren't exclusive. I think he feels guilty because he has been talking to another girl and he wants me to have been doing the same thing so he doesn't feel as bad maybe? He also tried to hide the fact that he was trying to get with her from me but it was painfully obvious that he was and his friends were talking about it to me, so I asked him if he slept with her because I don't want any STDs, But then he says she's not into him even though to me she looked very into him. And that same night asked me to stay so he could lay with me instead of just leaving after sex. He's really sending me mixed signals and it's kind of been messing with my head. Was he feeling guilty, jealous or playing mind games?