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So what I am doing right now needs fund of psychology knowledge and a sensitive brain, I read Maslow and Freud's theory and book, and the knowlodge does often help me in life and business, but I have some questions also.

I think human is physically a weaker edition orangutan and has more serious lack of security issue, which pushing them use their brain more often to satisfy their safety needs (to survive). When they evovle to civilization, exchange takes over self-sufficiency, what they can provide to others is more important to what they can provide to themselves, which makes safety issue worse, they worry to be "forgetten" by others, if one is not "social' enough, they don't usually have their descendant,
due to social type take advantage to get Sexual rights.
solitude "DNA type" won't pass to the next generation.

I notice people's "dream" have some common point like :
(1) get more respect and accept from society and others.
(2) feel more safe after reach "dream status".

money, power or reputation are just the tool in civilization society, won't work in jungle rule society.

It is not hard to imagine that, like young girls dream to be a singer star or young boys dream to be sport star or adult wants more power and money, with that, people can wipe out as much as things which threats (or potentially threat) their safety. and get what they want and can control as much as things or people.

I guess most "dream elements" between male and female are the same, but there is something I am not that sure, for girls, here are 2 options, which one you prefer :

(1) You are a princess, everyone in the world likes you, even a kitten wants to show smile to you if it can, your fans are all round the world. you can live forever.

(2) You are a queen, everyone in the world respects and honors you, you can order anyone to do anything, and you
can even kill anyone you want, everyone "likes" any of your
decision. you can live forever.

NOTE: guys and girls are welcome to answer this question.

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I have noticed many guys in real life (not just guys on GaG) tend to go for more introverted girls vs. "extroverted" girls.

Extroverted as in highly sociable, outspoken, and overall radiating more "social self-confidence" in terms of appearance and self-assurance for the world to see.

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My theory about this is that these guys that prefer the more shy/quiet, introverted girls...

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...is that these guys find them "easier targets" than girls that are more sociable, bold, and have a stronger aura of self-confidence in their appearance and themselves in general.

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The idea of "easier target" can be viewed different ways, including:

1) less "intimidation" to initially approach (however you define this)

2) presumption of lower self-confidence in introverted girls = she'll have lower standards

3) introverted nature = easier to "control" in a dating/relationship scenario

4) the lower level of "social self-confidence" of the shy/quiet girl = she is going to attract less "male competitors" than the more extroverted females

5) etc. [any factors that I may have overlooked]

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My question to you is; do you believe that my theory in the question is true for the majority (as in more than 50%) of the guys that prefer more "shy/quiet" girls over extroverted ones?

Feel free to refer to the numerical points in my answer by their respective number in your answer.

Thanks for your input. 8-)