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I grew up with four brother, I was the only girl 😢 My parents and brothers are very protective of me and always have been. Growing up I wasn’t allowed to hang out with certain people especially boys and those very few guy friends I did have we’re scared off.

I’m now 23 and have never been kissed or been on a date and part of the reason is because I’m terrified that my parents or brothers might do or say something. It gives me anxiety just thinking about it in my head.

I want to go on dates, I want to have my first kiss and more but I can’t exactly do it in secret because they literally watch everything I do. Sometimes I feel that they’ll be okay with me dating and being in a relationship but they’ll make a comment or do something that changes my mind.

Like today I was scrolling through TikTok in my room and my brother knocked on the door. I put the iPad down on the bed and opened the door. My brother saw the iPad and saw a guy on it and automatically started asking questions like “what are you doing “ and “who’s that”. Imagine if I was actually on FaceTime to a guy 🤦🏼‍♀️ It embarrassing.

Anyone else in similar situation and if so how are you coping? Advice welcome

I've been debating this for a while, and I wondered if maybe seeing the opinions of others would help me make a decision. I've been quarantining with a small group of friends since the virus shut everything down, and one of them I've taken... quite the liking to. We haven't hung out much, but every time the group gets together we seem to talk to each other the most. I want to make a move, and I am DEFINITELY going to. I'm just wondering if I should make it now, or wait until we've spent some more time together to ask for one-on-one time.

To add some detail:
I don't even have his phone number, snapchat, anything. The only way I have to contact him privately is his discord, since we share a friend server. Half the time it's hard to tell if he's interested or just funny/nice, and because of this combination of things I'm a little bit unsure if it's too early to make a move. When we hang out, we joke around and tease each other a lot, but as far as I can tell he doesn't treat me that much differently from any of the other guys in the group (one of which has a girlfriend). I know he loves cooking, and I've been considering asking him if he would be okay with showing me how to prepare some dishes, since that seems like a fun first date/way to get to know each other. But I wonder if it's too intimate/weird to ask someone I haven't spent much alone time with? What do you guys think?

(Bonus question-- should I ask him over discord or IRL? Asking him irl makes me nervous considering it would probably be in front of our other friends, but it IS usually considered the better choice...)

COVID-19 is not ideal when you are looking to potentially date. I was speaking to someone through Tinder, we have been talking pretty consistently for the past 2 weeks. He had to cancel last Sunday, said that his neck was hurting him. He followed up that night letting me know how he was feeling but I did not respond. He doesn’t message again until Tuesday this week, asking if I would be available to video chat that day. I told him that I would like to reschedule. He sent another message that night with a question, I responded but left his following response on read. He sent another message yesterday but it was a random photo with a caption. I responded, as did he & left his response on read again.

My point being, that compared to our communication last week, we have not video chatted since then. He communicates with me, but it’s general questions and irrelevant photos (what I mentioned above). I have not attempted to communicate with him aside from his efforts, however, I feel like he doesn’t know how to court a lady. He should ask how my day is going etc. He views my stories on snap & has not messaged since yesterday. I don’t want to follow up & I feel like what we had going is no longer worth pursuing.

Whose to blame for things falling through? I would say he is, because of lack of persistence.

This COVID-19 is not ideal when you are looking to potentially date. I was speaking to someone through Tinder, we have been talking pretty consistently for the past 2 weeks. He had to cancel last Sunday, said that his neck was hurting him. He followed up that night letting me know how he was feeling but I did not respond. He doesn’t message again until Tuesday this week, asking if I would be available to video chat that day. I told him that I would like to reschedule. He sent another message that night with a question, I responded but left his following response on read. He sent another message yesterday but it was a random photo with a caption. I responded, as did he & left his response on read again.

My point being, that compared to our communication last week, we have not video chatted since then. He communicates with me, but it’s general questions and irrelevant photos (what I mentioned above). I have not attempted to communicate with him aside from his efforts, however, I feel like he doesn’t know how to court a lady. He should ask how my day is going etc. He views my stories on snap & has not messaged since yesterday. I don’t want to follow up & I feel like what we had going is no longer worth pursuing.

Whose to blame for things falling through? I would say he is, because of lack of persistence.