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My spouse and I have been separated for 6 years now. We have not lived together in that time, have our own houses, and live in different states. We are still on good terms with each other and are friends and partners to succeed in life. We just don't live as married people.

My little brother is the same way. He's been married 10 years, but they split around 9 years ago and both moved on to new people and started new families without divorcing.

I have dated over the years, and people seem to see separation in all sorts of ways that I do not expect.

I also get many questions about why don't we just get divorced. Is that even relevant, and why? It works out for us to just stay married and live our own lives.

What do you see and think of about separated people while dating?

Let's call them Jordan and Mary. A married couple and they have 4 kids.

Jordan worked abroad for almost ten years in order to provide his family's needs. He comes home ocassionally with gifts for his children. New toys, foods, and gadgets.

He worked hard in order to earn a lot of money that he rarely buys anything for himself. He even lowers his budget when eating his everyday meals just to earn that money.

He comes home to surprise his loving wife just to find her with another man. He also found out that the guy was a drug addict and the savings he sent to his wife went to that guy. Furious, he beat his wife by slapping her.

Their fightings went to divorce and the wife left the 4 kids to his care. The wife was also pregnant with the other guy's kid. That's why she couldn't bring her children with her.

As years pass by, Jordan continued to work abroad to support his kids, they go to one of the best schools but then his kids started neglect him and ignore him.

Jordan thought his kids were just upset because he didn't have enough time to spend with them so worked hard and bought them the latest phone brand. They didn't even thank him. Jordan came back home and also met a woman who really cares about him and they started living together. They fixed their house and are now financially stable without working abroad.

As years go by, his children started to disrespect him until all of them ran away and went to their mother's side. Leaving their father.

What do you think happened to the children and why did they chose their mother despite her leaving them?

Was Jordan's love for his children not enough?

This guy and I met through a dating site and have been talking for a few years consistently. We have had many intellectually stimulating conversations and have developed an emotional connection unlike anything I’ve had before. He has been there for me through a lot of ups and downs in my life, etc but as time went on I started noticing things that didn’t add up about him. He also seemed to have a lot of reasons for why we couldn’t meet up in person.

Well, I eventually confronted him about the whole thing. Turns out he had made himself out to be younger and more religious than was the case. He knew I was in my 20s and a virgin and he was worried if I knew the truth about him, I wouldn’t want to be with him anymore. He is in his 40s and has already been married and divorced before but with no kids. I am incredibly shocked and trying to process. I know his age doesn’t change who he is but I’m worried that we are at two different points in our life and that things that seem exciting or novel to him may mean nothing to him. I did notice he had a lot of worldly experience compared to me, especially for someone in his early 30s.

But now that I know his actual age, I am having some second thoughts, especially since he wants to get married and have kids with me. How do you feel about age gaps? How significant are they for you when you are finding a spouse? And how do your family/friends feel about it.