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So, I've been Reading and doing research about my crush and past relationships.
And I've found that girls make more sense when it comes to getting the girl than guys.

To me, listening to a guy on how to get the girl is like a girl asking me for advice about what she's feeling on her 4th month of pregnancy. I don't know anything about it! I'm not a girl, get my point?

My whole life I've been surrounded by girls, sisters, cousins, aunts, Friends, girlfriends, etc. I have a handful of Friends who are men. Like 4 or 5. But, my whole life girls have come to me. I've never went asking out a girl, it's been always the other way around. And I'm not bragging about it. I've had the luck that the girls I liked or had a crush on, liked me back. Sometimes the relationship didn't worked out, but hey, at least I got to Kiss them.

So, that is my point. You want to get the guy, ask a guy about him.
You want to get the woman, ask a woman about it. It doesn't work the other way around.

I don't know how a woman thinks or why she feels that way, and she doesn't know what I'm thinking or feeling, but we can meet somewhere in the middle.

There is no one size fits all and every person is different, so don't give generalized answers, guys.

I'm not currently dating anyone. And many things would have to happen for that to change. There are smaller things like:

My Lifestyle - It's not (observably) destined for financial success, and I'm suffering from anxiety and other medical issues that further hinder my potential. Which of course could be overlooked or helped if I found someone in person that loves me no matter my social or financial status.

My Outcast Mindset - Built-up feelings that I'm not deserving of intimate love. Which could also be overlooked if I find someone in person that expresses that love exact for me.

Then there are big ones are:

My Selectivity - I'm picky as hell when it comes to physical attractiveness! But I'm not unrealistic. I'm just severely limited. But later down the line, what if I were to lose physical attraction to my partner? And what if I can't gain it back? All of those have happened through the years with old crushes I've had. And that kind of makes me not want to get into a relationship since physical attraction holds such a strong influence. But then again, I don't know if that will ever change.

My Views on Monogamy - I wouldn't have a problem staying physically committed if I were in a relationship with someone. That's easy. But mentally faithful? That's another story. I really like the idea of having one partner to be committed & intimate with forever. But I feel like that sounds better on paper. I don't see the gain worth the mental trauma that I'd cause someone by naively getting into a relationship with them when I don't have the core stuff for a successful relationship figured out. I'm not entirely sure, but I think I'd just want a really good friend for life. That way I'm able to (safely) be intimate with anyone I'm sexually attracted to with no strings attached and no feelings hurt.

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