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Hi all, I'm in a unique situation, and was hoping to get everyone's $0.02-

Background: I'm an OBGYN. I recently learned that a casual acquaintance, who's also a physician, has been suffering from recurrent early miscarriages (despite genetically normal embryos) after multiple rounds of IUI and IVF. She is now considering using a gestational surrogate.

I myself am super blessed to have easy pregnancies and fast, uncomplicated deliveries (one in the ER triage area, and the other in the backseat, lol.) Looking at that, alongside the fact that recurrent miscarriage is one of the bane's of every OB's existence, I REALLY want to help.

I'm not at all averse to reaching out to others in ways that are "biologically salient." In college, I even looked into donating a kidney to guy at my school who needed one, but ended up being a poor match. I say this not to canonize myself at all, but just to point out that I'm not risk averse, and I really don't think that this is just my emotions doing the talking. The problem is, I don't actually know her all that well- I'm more a friend of her husband, as we work together sometimes.

For those on the the other side of things- would it be totally awkward and out of line if someone you didn't know well- or someone you only knew professionally- offered to act as your GS? Of course I would make it abundantly clear that there would be no hard feelings if she wasn't comfortable, but I still worry that she might feel pressure. Thoughts?

Cutting the back story short, I was in an emotionally draining and somewhat abusive relationship. My ex used to cheat in ways that were mostly verbal ie suggestive texts and pics, just never really physical. But because of him going back to his ex, he forced me to get an abortion using his friends and family. I always tried to give him whatever I could, I worked after I terminated the pregnancy in order to share costs with him. I ended up severely depressed and got hospitalized. He never once visited me.

Fast forward to one and a half year after the abortion, couple months ago, I broke up with him. I got close to a friend who is always there to listen to me, and I liked how he was so kind to me and literally to everyone around us. Somehow I wished that this was my boyfriend. Thereafter, I broke up with my boyfriend as I couldn't get rid of the worsening depression he was causing me and also I wanted someone who is kinder like my friend.

My friend wasn't looking for a r/s as he was always busy working, and somehow we are close and yet I know so well that I'm in the friendzone. To keep our friendship, I rather keep things simple. I mean, I feel like my friend deserves way better. Now my ex knows that there are other guys trying to get me to be their girlfriend, but I'm tired of a r/s. My ex bought me things he never used to get for me. He became so nice overnight that I wasn't sure that this was the same guy with me before. Well.. it might be the sex, but I don't really feel like someone can change permanently? It could be that he felt threatened and hence was trying to win me back. But it's suffocating me, that and other guy's attention to me. I just want to be alone, and I'm almost sure that I don't want my ex to be a potential s/o. Any thoughts on what he's trying to do?

I know this is kinda ridiculous, and I plan on taking another one to figure it out in the A. M. but does this look like a positive or negative? The line wasn’t even straight but definitely had definition. Just curious if anyone else has been here could also maybe say what this looks like to them...