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My boyfriend admitted that years ago (he was then 17), he got scared and abandoned a girlfriend during a scary crisis. Both his then girlfriend and her parents hated him ever since. The girl had to see a counselor and then a psychologist for nearly a year to recover emotionally.

He never told anyone about it, not even his closest friends nor his own parents. He was looking down at the floor for a while when telling me this. While I appreciate he was honest about this, I'm wondering if I should continue dating him?

That isn't a desirable trait in anyone. What if I we were to have kids one day? Is he going to abandon them as well when things get tough?

I have noticed a lot of negative reactions to telling people how you feel-if you feel love. Even though posts are always about being honest with your feelings --unless you're in love, then lie.

If a person says they want to tell someone, people just argue against it when it doesn't even have anything to do with them.
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I think if a person has the will ad hope to tell someone the truth then they should be encouraged. I get if it individuals feel cowardly towards it themselves, but to act like its important wisdom to threaten against it for someone else, is odd.

i always encourage people to be honest especially when they already want to lol

i get if if they have known them 3 days and are delusional. but i've seen posts from people in love for yours , getting responses like well maybe hint you like him / her. or don't expect him/ her to like you you might scare them off.

im pretty sure anyone going to say they are in love has definitely considered it won't be reciprocated, especially if they are discussing it before hand. AND if its not reciprocated, well, isn't it BETTER to know and move on instead of waiting around bc you are afraid to be honest?

its not as if rejection improves over time, you just waste time, falling deeper in love... What is the point?

you certainly get rid of players and sex scavengers, plus opposite of it weakening your position. being honest off the bat takes away controlling element. there is, in relationships an often unspoken threat that someone will be the first to fall or worse SEEM like they have fallen in love and 'you know how people get'. well if you are upfront is no longer a mystery. its there and nothing crazy is happening. they can't hold over you that you might fall in love.