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My ex broke things off while he was on vacation. He texted said we need to talk then called & said that text was a “slip”. He said he wasn’t feeling it anymore & things weren’t progressing. After asking why, he said “you wanna know the truth? I never developed feelings for you since day 1.” So for 6 months he never developed feelings. The convo ended abruptly, but instead of calling back or seeing me in person... he ghosted me.

when we dated, everything was too perfect. We clicked like it was meant to be. We ignored the 10 year gap because it felt like we were meant to be. He wrote me paragraphs how he’s crazy about me, cares about me to the moon and back, how I’ll be his wife, this and that. He spent $400 on flowers for Vday- basically the way he acted & things he said, made me build fantasies about the future of us. He got a new house and I decorated it all. He introduced me to his entire family, his close friends and their families. He called me his fiancé. Literally eveything was going perfect and he always told me he’s going to fight for me and stay by my side no matter what happens because we are meant to be and no other man will ever have me. From all the good morning baby texts to goodnight baby texts to Random i miss you and I’m thinking about you texts to other texts and convos, I was happy and assured he was the one according to how he acted with me.

We had arguments but resolved them and never stayed mad. There were red flags though. he was emotionally and verbally abusive but was blinded by how much I fell for him. He told me things any woman would be upset about but i ignored. I thought I was overthinking or he gave an explanation. He slowly stopped to care, he didn’t compliment me, made me feel I wasn’t good enough for him. The make outs, touching, hugging stopped. He was always on his phone. I became cold towards him due to his behavior because he was acting cold & rude with me.