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So here is my dilemma, I am talking to one girl I know since the corona lockdown. We had a really good tuning , conversations. Due to corona, we were in different cities but we enjoyed phone or video sex too. Fast forward to this month, we happened to be at same place, so we really enjoyed with each other and I really felt good vibes. until this point we were just friends who were being sexual as per our convenience (no string attached kinda) . But this time, we both felt different maybe because of conversation thing. In my past, I had few casual relationships and one during lockdown as well. Anyway, the thing is she has cheated (makeout with two guys , no sex) on her ex boyfriend in the past when her relationship was going through a tough patch and it was about to end. But, she ended them in some time as well. As per her, she also does not feel any remorse for whatever she did. She justifies them citing lack of emotional availability or bla bla. In her past relationship when things got better, she had the guts to ask her ex for marriage on one or two occasions, without feeling anything for what she did behind his back. Anyway, fast forward to present, I like her really but in dilemma to ask her out for serious things. I don't want that cheating to happen to me. Also, she kinda gets upset with my past casual affairs but never takes the blame for her misdeeds which makes me rethink about her. Sometimes, I wish us to be good friends like earlier, there was lot of steam that way without any judgement

Here is the sad thing. I came from a broken home, I never knew my real father, And the person i knew as my father was evil, sadistic, and violent, not to mention being a pedophile. I never found my real father in my life, though i did find his grave. Statistically only 7% of divorced mothers support having equal shared custody and parenting. That means that there are 7% of mothers that actually want whats best for their child and love their child more than they hate the father. Of course i am not talking about being ok with abusive dads being in the children's lives. Thats never ok, but the percentage of abusive fathers in divorces is less than 5%. Most of those mothers would rather use their children as a paycheck from the father, as well as the government.

In the US 50% of marriages end of divorce, Of those divorces 90% are initiated by the woman, and shocker, its not abuse, its boredom, or they could not commit. Of those divorces 93% of children are left with the father being reduced to a visitor. Its scary.. And here is the worst part of it, Single parent homes, or homes where just the mother is present produce the absolute worst results.

Statistics

63% of youth suicides are from fatherless homes (US Dept. Of Health/Census) – 5 times the average.

90% of all homeless and runaway children are from fatherless homes – 32 times the average.

85% of all children who show behavior disorders come from fatherless homes – 20 times the average. (Center for Disease Control)

80% of rapists with anger problems come from fatherless homes –14 times the average. (Justice & Behavior, Vol 14, p. 403-26)

71% of all high school dropouts come from fatherless homes – 9 times the average. (National Principals Association Report)

The worst part of this is i have no idea how to solve it, because there are definitely deadbeat dads out there.. The overwhelming majority are not, but they exist..

https://thefatherlessgeneration.wordpress.com/statistics/