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i definetely feel like i think about the future a lot, but sometimes i feel like it gets in the way of things i want to do now, and I don't know which part of myself to listen. for instance, i have a lot of goals and things i want to accomplish, the biggest being having a family and raising kids and being able to support them. as a result, i try really hard in school because i want to get into a good college to get a good job. i also try to stay out of trouble so that i dont ruin my chances of a good future. i also avoid relationships because i dont want a guy to get in the way of my set plans for the future.

but at the same time, a little part of me wants to experience hs and just the present in general. im so focused on good grades that i rarely go out and do anything with friends. it also stresses me out a ton and is simply no fun. likewise, i also want a boyfriend. i may have a shot at a relationship rn, but the future-oriented part of me tells me to forget about him! that he's only gonna get in the way of schoolwork, the chances of you even marrying him are slim, so he'll just be a heartbreak and a waste of time, plus its unlikely we will both go to the same college etc etc etc. i just dont know what to do.

if i forget about my future and focus on what makes me happy now, i may regret that in the future if i mess things up, but if i only focus on the future, i might regret that i did nothing fun in my younger years

Let’s say you went to college #1 and took a few courses but didn’t do so well. Then went to another school and started taking some classes, you’re doing a lot better and want to enroll into a degree program. Do you have to mention the previous school? I’m not asking if someone should or should t but is it illegal or bad if you don’t? Anyone had experience with this? Thanks!

I really messed up by not getting a job until after I graduated. Although I had an assoc/bach, I didn't have the experience required for most job positions. My mom wanted us to get jobs during the summers in between, but never forced us, so we didn't. Its crazy cause rn she's considering taking on a second job when I move out, instead of forcing my 19 year old sis to get her first job. My mom has already talked her out of attending college because my sis has always dealt with selective mutism. But I honestly feel that shouldve ended years ago. Plus my sis actually wanted to attend college but let my mom talk her out of it. Now my moms excusing her from getting a job. My sis only really talks to me and a few select friends but only really about video games, art, or tv shows. She won't talk to anyone else and basically had my mom talk for her at a job interview. It was ridiculous to watch 🤦‍♀️ Then neither of them called back the job after missing the interviewers return call. In HS she hardly talked to her teachers and would only communicate through writing them notes/signs. At this point she just seems spoiled. ANYWAYS... I’d like my kids to get their first jobs during the summer around like age 17. While in HS/college, I don’t want them working during the school year because we’re going to focus on them excelling academically in hopes they get full tuition scholarships like I did. But either way, Im sure at that age, they’d get more job experience then I ever had. #FeelFreeToList #SaveTheDate #ParentalFavoritism