In all spectrums of life, people encounter days of good and of bad. Each day results from the decisions of a person's life choices, whether they can be consequences that the person has to deal with for the rest of his/her life, or whether they are rewards, improving the person's future and mindset forever. However, this mix of "yin and yang" is beneficial to the soul and mind, allowing for growth to take place.
Although hardships in life cause people to suffer, these struggles can allow people to enjoy and appreciate everything life has to offer once the "storm" passes. This may be surprising but people who have everything are not necessarily happy. They may have cars, property, a family or "women" to keep them company but until they experience suffering, they will never find happiness in their riches.
Joy is a feeling which comes from a place of sadness, transforming the happiness people experience into appreciation. Most depressed people can feel happy when they are around people, but on the inside, they need joy. Joy to be alive, appreciation for everyone around them and thankful for the world that they live in.
I know that most depressed people cannot find a way out of their state of sadness and loneliness, my sister could not either until she look for a light to help her out— my mom. My sister had been depressed, anxious and in an unhealthy mental state, thinking about suicide and how it could end her misery. Whenever I saw her, I saw the surface-level of my sister— a happy but stressed-out High Schooler. To alleviate her thoughts, my older sister began writing poetry, addressing her dark outlooks on life, until she found her light. My mother as a foundation for my family, reached out to my older sister, comforting, holding, and loving her with all her heart to make her feel important.
From that pain of suffering and misery, my sister found a strong hold in my mother realizing that if she followed through on her plans, it would tear my mother apart, as well as the rest of my family. Today, my sister is well and alive, enjoying every good and bad day in college because she knows that "even though [she's] dying, [she's] fine"(dying due to homework and stress). Everyday, my sister has found joy and is thankful for life and everything it throws at her because she knows that even in the darkest of days, light can be found.
As my mother was a light to my sister, searching her out in the darkness of her depression, we should all be the light to everyone else, especially seeking them out during the darkest times. People need help and without a strong hold to hang to, disastrous things can happen. The next time you see someone looking down, approach them and ask them "How are you doing?" because it would mean the world to them. Even if you are not the most extroverted or steady person, everyone needs someone they can discuss their deepest emotions with, someone who will love them for who they are and will listen to all their problems.
If you need or are seeking help, reach out to someone to talk to them about this because you should not be going down this path alone.
Thank you for reading and go find joy in every struggle you have. Also comment down below about things, people or events that happened to you that you have found joy in.