If You Want To Be Happy, Be!

[LaFemmeFatale]

I remember few minutes before my 12th birthday, I promised myself to never forget that once I was 11 and to never let life kill the childish happiness and enthusiasm in me, I promised myself to always remember the person I was and always fight for her happiness

Every time when I stuck in the storm of life, I remember that little girl, her dreams and my promise and I try not to let life ruin what I loved in her so much.

I can say that I found the key of happiness, better to say, I always knew it but unlike others I decided not to forget it, and even though that what I am going to say sounds weird, what I found out is that I am the key to happiness :)

What does it even mean?

It means that I am the only source of my own happiness, so instead of trying to find it in things where I can't find it, I search it in myself.

The happiest times I remember were simple and hard to notice. People skip these moments and they think they're unhappy while the only thing they fail to do is to make the time stop and remember these moments.

I find happiness in simple things.

I am happy when I am walking in the nature,
I am happy when I watch starry sky,

I feel happy when Summer rain drops fall on my face and body and I am the only person in the street who's not trying to hide under umbrella or inside the building,
I feel happy when I am drinking tea and reading book,
I am happy when I breath fresh morning air,
I am happy when I am out with my friends and feel like I am the owner of the world,
I am happy when I am with my family and everyone is fine, no need to celebrate something, just being together is so peaceful,
I am happy when I write and read the poem, writing melodious poem and then listening to it is the biggest ecstasy ever,
I feel happy when I'm painting,
I feel happy when I am making the speech in front of people and see their inspired eyes,
I am happy when I sing along with my friends,

I feel happy when I play piano,

I feel happy when I see my crazy friends doing crazy things and looking at me happy,

I feel happy when my little cousins tell me their school stories and I give them advice or tell them my stories and they are all ears and excited as if I am some super star,

I am happy when my 2 years old cousin runs to hug me when I enter the house,
I feel happy when I listen to the songs I love,
I feel happy when I am dancing in the weirdest way ever, when there's no one to watch and I am dancing like I'm crazy :D
I feel happy when I am watching football match and the team I support scores a goal,
I am even more happy when I hug someone after that and share them part of my happiness,

I am happy when I play in the snow,
I am happy when I am sad
and even though that I have no any specific reason I feel so happy right now!

It's easy to be happy when life smiles at you, but life is not always easy on us. So sometimes we should smile to her instead, even though that It's watching us with grumpy face. Remember all the happy times, the ones you managed to catch and stuck in your mind forever. Sometimes you should just stop and enjoy being happy, I do it all the time when I am with my friends and lovely people, I look at them and breath in the happiness, these moments, these exact moments will never come back again and that's the beauty of it.

Even if life showed you some harsh lessons don't let it kill the happy child in you.

Don't cry because of your past, smile and be happy because you had something beautiful. Did your boyfriend leave you? No problem!

When the flower of the rose is dried and withered it falls, and another blooms in the lovely garden.

Did you lose the job? It means there are many other opportunities in front of you.

Nothing, nothing in the world is worth to make us give up.

We should keep going, keep searching for happiness even in the stormy life.

When I look back at my past, I might feel a bit sad sometimes but I also feel happy, hell yeah, I lived and I keep living! I don't regret any part of my life, I don't feel sorry for the things that happened to me or the things that I did, thanks to them I am the person I am today and I love thinking that I live the way that my life would make a great book or movie.

I want to make the beautiful story out of it so when I am old, people will write about things I did and I had, about the way I loved and I lived. I will have things to tell my grandchildren, I will be able to look at them and be proud that I never gave up, that I am a fighter and that I changed the world to the better at least by changing people's lives to the better.

Ask yourself "Would my life make an interesting book to read?" and If the answer is "No", change the answer, change your life to the better, find happiness and come at the bright side of the life.

Our lives are our choices. Don't blame your unhappiness to others, don't see yourself as a victim, see yourself as a survivor, as a winner, as a warrior.

Don't wait for happiness to find you, find it and never let it go.

Start doing it right now, look around and enjoy being alive!

[Being_a_good_Indian]

Thanks for A2A.

Happiness is attitudinal. It is not a distanced dream. It lies all along with you in every little thing: nice weather, tasty meal, melodious music, care of family member, child smile and of the same kind of things. Hence find happiness in every moment throughout the journey of life.

Often, people impose a condition on themselves to be happy only if certain desires are realized. They choose to delay their happiness in a hope of better tomorrow, which is not guaranteed. They do not try to remain happy simultaneously while moving forward to the realization of goal.

The so-called approach to delay the happiness for certain fixed goal is not good for people and even to their desired goals. They remain tensed all the time and delaying happiness creates an extra burden of pressure on themselves and decreased their productivity.

Hence do not make a condition for happiness and wait for the great occasions to celebrate and be happy. Find happiness in every little thing and in every moment which life offers to you. Because there is no guarantee that you will be happy even if your conditioned goal for happiness is realized.

Always keep in mind, happiness is not conditional and biased. The ultimate share of happiness for everyone is the same, only the source to derive happiness is different. So, open up your heart and make attitude to stay happy throughout the life.

I appreciate your efforts. Keep Sharing Your Experience.

[Being_a_good_Indian]

Thanks for selecting my opinion as most helpful opinion.

[Rissa95]

This is absolutely beautiful!

I completely agree with you, I'm living the same way!
God made me see this truth and has given me his never ending joy in all things.

[LaFemmeFatale]

I am glad you live the same way :)
Sadness will still find way to us itself, we should spread happiness.

[dizmuhjam]

A lot of our cultural dialogue is fundamentally avoidant, so people will just say things like, “just be positive and things will be fine.” “The tyranny of positivity” was what a friend of mine called it. She recently died of cancer, and what she meant was if being in remission was just a matter of positive thinking, then all of her friends in her breast cancer support group would be alive today. By sending out the message that our thoughts are responsible for creating our health, well-being, and reality, we are overvaluing the power of our thoughts, while making people feel culpable when something bad happens to them. They feel it is because they weren’t positive enough.

What is actually guaranteed in life is that it will not go well sometimes. You’re healthy, until you’re not healthy. You’re with the person you love, until you’re not with the person you love. You enjoy your job, until you don’t. We will find ourselves in situations where we will feel anger, sadness and grief and so on. Unless we can process, navigate and be comfortable with the full range of our emotions, we won’t learn to be resilient. We must have some practice dealing with those emotions or we will be caught off guard. I believe the strong cultural focus on happiness and thinking positively is actually making us less resilient.

The next point — and this is very important to me — emotions like sadness, guilt, grief and anger are beacons for our values. We don’t get angry about stuff we don’t care about. We don’t feel sad or guilty about stuff we don’t care about. If we push these emotions away, we are choosing not to learn about ourselves. We are choosing to ignore our values and what is important to us.

And the last point, when we tell ourselves to “think positive” and to push negative or difficult emotions aside, it won’t work. It doesn’t work.

[Nivinxus]

An optimist? Pleasure to meet a fellow one.

I agree with many of the things you say here, but you can not discount negative emotions aside.

Yes happiness, hope, compassion etc. are all good things ONLY when it is a genuine result of overcoming negative emotions. To me, negative emotions are an indication of what I must face to grow and be rewarded with happiness. In many ways positive and negative emotions go hand in hand, to drive forward no matter what.

[LaFemmeFatale]

I am not happy all the time. I mean can anyone be happy all the time?
Just I am an optimist and If I wasn't I would be dead because I am very sensitive and things that has happened to me in my life would completely ruin me, thankfully I am optimist and can be source of my own simple happiness.

[thomasf4532]

This is actually so beautiful i have no idea how you can express your emotions so good i find it so hard to put this kind of stuff out on paper. Your an amazing person and the world is lucky to have you :)

[LaFemmeFatale]

Thomas! (Is that your real name?)
Actually you were one of my inspirations to write this, your question made me think about it :)
Thank you! You are so cute <3

[thomasf4532]

Yeah Thomas is my real name 😊 an aww your so sweet i feel honored to be apart of something so incredible. I'm bookmarking this and if ever im loosing my way ill look back on this and find my inspiration. No problem you deserve praise, can i just ask do you ever enter any of your writing into contests or even just to creative writing pages e. c. t? You've got an amazing talent 😊

[LaFemmeFatale]

Thanks for the kind words ^^ I don't reall think that's so good, especially since English is not my first language but I write things like that and I write poetry in Georgian. People like my poetry very much but I feel like I expose too much of myself in them and I don't post them on social networks anymore.
I won a few contests when I was in school but now that I am in university writing is just my hobby. My mom is good at writing too and grandma has written a book. Always wanted to write a book but I am gathering my thoughts and experiences and someday I will definitely write it ^_^
Thank you I am really flattered ❤

[Nik1hil]

will you dance with me in Rain to some of your favorite songs.

i am not asking coordinated dance, i am asking for that weird dance that you do when you are alone

[LaFemmeFatale]

With pleasure :)
It is always better to have one more weirdo by your side xD :P

[Nik1hil]

yey!..

[Water_Bottle]

"Ask yourself "Would my life make an interesting book to read?" and If the answer is "No", change the answer, change your life to the better, find happiness and come at the bright side of the life."

If the answer to this question is "No" then your life is likely happy. If you look at the world around you what entertains you isn't mundane and calm enjoyable scenes of just a person reading a book for two hours as a miniseries. There's no drama and no plot because a happy life is not dramatic and has no plot!

This is clearly written by someone young. I hate to say that but it just is very young and kind of dumb logic. You clearly lack the experience to back your own words.

[Rissa95]

I see where you're coming from yet I don't think that that's what she meant. She doesn't want you to add drama to your life to make it interesting, but add things you love doing to make it exciting. Pick up a sport or start playing in a band, go out and meet new people, travel or learn a new language. Add life to your life. You've been given a life, you can make the most out of it to make it worthwhile like reading an enthralled book. :)

[NerdInDenial]

I admire your enthusiasm, but life is a cruel, soul sucking, unforgiving bitch. You always have to prepare for the worst and improve yourself so you can weather the storms and ultimately survive.

[ADFSDF1996]

I think people need to find what makes them happy even during hardships.

[Jonnynoh]

The key to happiness is to be happy, kindess and happiness are the only things that matter in life.

[zzzondarrr]

I don't know, I'm completely fine with being unhappy if that's what I'm supposed to feel, that makes me actually question if I'm making the right actions...

[Stamps]

I'm sorry, but happiness isn't an on/off switch you can just turn on. Life isn't like that, so don't pretend it is.

[LaFemmeFatale]

It's okay, I am an optimist, you sound like a pessimist but optimists invented airplanes and pessimists invented parachutes. So world needs both of us.
And no I don't pretend anything, I describe what I feel like. Happiness is a choice, if you think I am someone who hasn't seen the hardships of life you are wrong. I've been at its worst side, many people in my place would end life in other way. Instead I decided to go on and spit to the life in the face, to smile when it pushes on the wounds. I don't mean I am happy all the time, hell no!
I just see problems as challenges and I never give up. It is easy to be sad and grumpy. It is easy to give up but that's not my way.

[Franitz]

It's easy to be happy when your life is a fairytale.

Facepalm x10.

[LaFemmeFatale]

Who said that my life is a fairytale? :)

[Franitz]

Give me an example.

[LaFemmeFatale]

I am not comfortable talking about it with a stranger. I don't even talk about it with my friends usually. But my life is far from being a fairytale. Maybe It will be someday, when I reach everything I aim but only in the expense of very hard work. Don't judge others without even knowing them.

[Franitz]

Yeah right. A stranger from the other side of the planet might tell your friends about it. Duh.

[LaFemmeFatale]

It's not about you telling others, I am not totally anonymous here and I am not really comfortable talking about very personal things about my life. I really doubt you've had harder life than me. Actually I think that me being optimistic is the result of me seeing the worst of life.

[Franitz]

''Don't judge others without even knowing them''

And then

''I really doubt you've had harder life that me''
Ironic, isn't it?

[LaFemmeFatale]

Now you know how it feels :)

[Franitz]

I'm not afraid to admit I judge tho. I jusge everybody at first sight. Then it's up to them to prove me wrong or right.

[Anonymous]

If your a white man that likes whites women, happiness is impossible. Why women love black men and not whites men. If your a white guy, there’s no love for you

[Anonymous]

Your take put a smile on my face! 😊

[MikkiM]

<3 <3

[LegateLanius]

Nice mytake

[scooogy]

Sure, until someone complains again.

[GayHowellMeme]

I don't find happiness.