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I met this girl, on a night train, when we both were traveling. During the train ride she showed geat interest in me: lots of questions, loots of prolonged eye contact (3s) and smiling, asks for my facebook, etc. We agreed to meet up, but since she was with her friends visiting my country, we ended up not meeting there.

Later, we agreed to meet each other in another country, which i planned to visit and where she was going alone.
In the first day we were ok, mostly in group with people from the hostel, she was warm to me but not nearly as interested as in the train, but i also did some mistakes... I arranged with her a plan for the next day, she agreed to it, but in the next morning she made up a lame excuse to flake and started acting cold to me...

Since then i stopped giving her attention and focused on going out to meet local girls. After this she changed her behavior, reengaging conversations with me, asking if i did meet any local girl, etc.. she even tried to make me jealous, flirting with another guy in hostel, where i could see.

The thing that bothered me the most is that, before leaving the city, we were with a small group talking, and i catched her staring at me, by the corner of my eye. I looked back at her, and she did look away very quickly. Now, i know this means she was unconfortable and that either she finds me repusive and did not want me to think she was interestested OR she was nervous that i catched her looking at me, and that shows at least some interest...

Ill probabily never see her again, but i can't take this doubt of my head! Why would she be looking at me after she rejected me and why would she look away like that?

I joined a personal development group, similar to toastmasters, and the first week I met a woman who was a lot of fun and flirting with me so I asked her out. A couple other people nearby heard and explained that they discourage casual dating in the group because they want to make sure people use the group for what it is, a personal development group, and not dating. She never gave me an answer.

Anyway, the following month or so she maintained her flirtyness with me and was always the one coming up to me, but now it is approaching about two months time and she's almost ignoring me completely. She'll still laugh and have fun and sometimes even touch me when we're talking, but she no longer initates any conversations with me. I tried backing off a bit, but we just ended up not talking for two weeks lol.

I want to say screw their rules and ask her out but I'm concerned that maybe I've waited too long and she's bored with me. Does the fact that she's not chasing me anymore mean that she's not interested in me right now, or does it just mean that she's tired of small talk and flirting all the time and she's trying to force me to ask her out if I want to see her. She talks with most of the other guys in the group, but will not initate conversations with me anymore and the last couple times I talked with her she would seem into the conversation and a little flirty, but then excuse herself from the conversation after a couple minutes.

Or would it be better if I back off and wait until she starts approaching me again, even if that doesn't happen for a while, and then ask her out then?

What do you think?