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I have been with my boyfriend for six weeks now and I heard rumors that he still liked his ex girlfriend, but I didn't think anything of it until I saw her flirting with my boyfriend. I asked him to be honest with if and so I said "Do you have ANY feelings for your ex at all?" his reply was kind of why so then I got really upset and said "So is the kind of means you have feelings for her still nice to F*****g know". He said that he didn't mean it like that and he doesn't like her. I stopped talking to him for a week and refused to even make any eye contact with him. That yesterday afternoon he asked me if I was upset with him and I said "Wow took you long enough to figure it out". He asked me why I was upset with him and I asked him if he really wanted to know and he said "Yes". I said "Well your ex girlfriend broke up with you and generally, if your not the person who just broke up with someone than you usually you still have feelings for them". I then said "I think now you have found out she has feelings for you again your gaining feelings for her again and, you just don't want to tell me because you're afraid your going to hurt my feelings". He said I was right about one thing if he ever did have feelings for her he wouldn't tell me because he doesn't want to hurt me. so then I said "So I would have to find out by your best friend Brayden?" and then he said "You can ask him right now if you want I don't have feelings for her at the moment". But in other words if you ever did have feelings for her you wouldn't tell me and he said "No". Then he grabbed my had and said "Look at me I can reassure now that I don't have any feelings for her at the moment I promises". I trust him kind of but I don't know hat to do my feelings are mixed??????HELP!

I want to make this clear first, there was no cheating involved in this situation.
There's this guy I've been involved with on and off for years. We didn't actually date but we were the best of friends and always together, we slept together, I gave him relationship advice and so on. I moved away and he thought I was just out of town for the summer visiting family. He asked about dating when I came back and I had to break the news to him. He eventually asked me to move home and marry him and this is where I lost his trust. He told me all of his feelings, said he wanted to marry me, have a family together and so forth... I never said no but I never said yes either. We talked about it everyday and I was very happy and positive about the idea but I was in a really bad relationship at the time and I was insecure, scared of leaving, scared of the what ifs and so forth... he asked me 3 different times and I never gave him and answer asked nd he finally lost it on me and said some mean things. We started talking 6 months ago again after a year of the silent treatment. We made plans around Christmas...he bailed...made more plans later...he bailed and we made plans for this past weekend, he was a dick and bailed. He can be so sweet sometimes but come crunch time the week before he gets cold feet...he's said he doesn't trust me anymore and he is still hurt and out how things happened...I finally layed all the cards on the table... he replied and it wasn't bad either... and then he is a jerk. I dont know if he's scared to have feelings and outs gain for me, if he's just not interested or this is his sweet revenge because where I am now... is the exact place he was in 3 years ago the first time he asked me to marry him. Can I get some thoughts? There's obviously more to the story...not much though but thats the jest of it.

I have been with my boyfriend for three years now. He's called me a bitch about 1000 times. For anything. I called him when he had one percent and he said "you really have to be a bitch and call me?" I'm so sick of it. He doesn't take me seriously when I say I'll end it if he doesn't stop then he says he will and then another day comes and gets mad and calls me it again. And sometimes when I tell him he needs to stop or I'll leave he says he doesn't care. I know I shouldn't put up with this disrespect but I don't know why I keep letting him get away with it. He calls me so many others names as well. He had anger problems. He has broke my closet and the little radio screen in my car. I'm just so sick of the disrespect. I know I deserve better but I don't know why I stay. He cheated on me two years ago and has never gained my trust back and gets mad when I get paranoid about him going out or who he's talking to on his phone. I'm dumb I should leave but I don't know. And one thing that keeps me with him is he gave me type one herpes. My doctor said its no big deal that so many people have it and don't know it but it's a big deal to me. I feel unhappy and stuck with him. Like nobody else will want me.