I cheated, he forgave me. Will he ever trust me again?

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I cheated on my boyfriend, with a guy I barely knew. It was a one night stand type of thing. But the guy kept trying to talk to me. Him and my bf are the only two guys I have ever been with (sexually). My bf tried to shoot him, Yes, shoot him it was all very hectic. The guy (A) didn't know when to stop and he just caused more problems. He just kept trying to talk to me and my bf hated it. He threatened him a couple times then I had to delete all my social media accounts and block his # ... I apologized and I meant it. I love my bf too much to lose him. I was stupid for doing what I did and I regret it with my life. He forgave me. And we are still together. He is very jealous tho. And very overprotective. He constantly makes me cry over the way he acts. He has always been like that but what I did made it worse. I just want to know if I will ever get his full trust back. I mean I love him and am grateful he gave me a second chance but I can't talk to anyone. I can't have any friends. Besides girls of course and it all depends if he likes the girls if not I can't be friends with them. And if a guy even says hi to me he overreacts. What I did happened six months ago. And ever since he just doesn't trust me at all. I love him to death but it's hard to put up with. I don't talk to any guys what so ever and have no problem with it I just want him to trust me again. Will I ever gain his trust back? I need advice.

master24 · Accepted Answer

everything is on your hand. from now on you need to start being fully open and honest about everything with your bf if you want to gain his trust back. its quite normal that he will not trust you for sometime and probably is going to have septistic thoughts and start questioning you he might even wanna regularly check your text massages and emails.. what you have to do is never hiding anything from him. and openly and honestly answer all his questions. comfort him when he feels the need to it. and be patient cause after sometime if you are not still cheating he will realize that and trust you. a cheater is not always a cheater but no body can deny that its kind of sickness. and just keep in mind that someone who doesn't accept that they re ill. won't start on medication or get operated so they will never feel or get better.

hope you understand what i mean and good luck.!

Shane12 · Accepted Answer

He didn't really forgive you. And he will never trust you. Forgiveness doesn't mean he will go back to being a little calmer then he is now. He is angry with you, because you probably mean everything to him and then you went and cheated on him. Now he doesn't wanna be without you, but he can't forgive what you did either.

Not attacking you, just the guy sounds like me. Im a very jealous guy, and if my fiance were to cheat on me, or i found out she had. I would never forgive her and i would never trust her.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Forget the butthurts who Have to do their "Cheating is worse than child murder!" BS.

Personally i don't think he has forgiven you. It's up to him and you if you want to move past it so ignore all the shit waste of time comments that are just having a go.

Just because you cheated doesn't mean you are the bad guy, weird I know, but true. Yeah, you did a bad thing but you aren't a bad person. Your boyfriend has to realise that forgiving you means he actually had to move on and forgive you. That isn't possible if he keeps acting the way he does. All that will do is drive you away. You need to be honest and open with him and yourself. You cheated for a reason, all was not well before otherwise it wouldn't have happened. You both need to start being honest and open a put how you feel and your insecurities, it's the ONLY way Your relationship will survive.

BaileyisDarcy · Accepted Answer

I'm going to ignore the cheating thing because that seems irrelevant in light of everything else you said.

It sounds to me like he's abusive. Not physically, maybe not verbally, but mentally. You need to get out of there, he's over possessive, regardless of whether you cheated or not, and carrying on in a relationship that's failing will only hurt you. Trying to save a relationship when there's no obvious reason as to why it's failing can be plausible, but trying to save this one? No.

And to answer the question you wanted answered, no. I highly doubt he will trust you again like he did.

GirlsLie · Accepted Answer

This is why I could just never be in a relationship with someone who cheated, even if I loved them. Because cheating just changes things and creates so much insecurity and drama, I don't know if he'll ever trust you again, my guess would be that he won't or if he does it will take a very long time. It just changes the relationship and it's probably really difficult to come back from that.

spaceshuttle · Answer

Earning the trust after what happened is a tough thing. I get it that you love him, but love is not going to just make it easy for you or your boyfriend as without trust any relationship can fail. Some people here are right that every time you guys will argue then there are potential chances that topic of cheating will come up and things will become impossible. You will get reminded of that one mistake many times. You are giving your best to mend the relation, which is a good thing, but it is a long shot.

I am sorry for saying this but I would suggest you to break up with him and start a fresh life. It is hard because you love that guy but you know it is probably the best for you and him too.

SomeoneImportant · Answer

Well if it's hard to put with, then leave. Why stay and victimize yourself when you're the one that cheated?

You knew he was the jealous type and possessive. So why do it?

I just don't understand it.

But anyway, you may not get his trust back, he'll be even more jealous than before.

DonkeyKong1979 · Answer

Did I read that right? You're boyfriend tried to shoot the guy? I know you say you love him but honestly, I think you have to ask yourself whether someobe who responds to infidelity with gun violence is somebody you actually want in your life.

Anonymous · Answer

Why would you cheat If you love him? That's trifling. Did he do something wrong? Anyways you will MIGHT never get his trust back. You have traumatized him in trusting girls. Same thing happened to me I still remember it. Although I'm still friends with my ex. I still don't trust her for what she did. I rarely talk her. it destroyed everything i ever felt for her. Once a cheater always a cheater. So what I suggest if he keeps acting up you leave him and find somebody else to sleep with.

Dandeus · Answer

He hasn't truly forgiven you, and he didn't trust you to begin with... That's what his jealousy means, that he doesn't trust you. Your boyfriend is very controlling, and violent as well. You should leave him and avoid the other guy as well. If he's trying to shoot this guy, the next time his anger and jealousy flares up it could be you that he shoots.

SilenRose · Answer

No. Once you cheat the seed of doubt starts to grow. It also sounds like you gave up your freedom for a second chance. Personally I think you two should just make a clean break.

Hephaestus · Answer

Your relationship sounds fucked up, even without the cheating.

Yous_15 · Answer

No not really. In fact every time you two bump heads and argue he is going to bring it up and put you down. I doubt he will ever trust you again.

kangy · Answer

Very hard to. Once a mirror is cracked, even if u put them back together there will always be cracks shown. I knowi will never trust a cheater.

Anonymous · Answer

You broke the trust, it doesn't just come back over night. Be patient with him. He is probably still angry, understandably. He has to know he can trust you again, so you need to prove it.

jmmmfi · Answer

He forgave you that's more than I would've done

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