Will he ever forgive me? Will I get another chance?

[Anonymous]

Last year I was dating 2 guys from a dating app. Normally I only date 1 guy at a time, but with the app it’s more difficult. Guy1 and I had a lot more in common and I liked him so much, but I chose Guy2, because we started dating before, I knew him better so I felt that this was the right thing. With Guy1 we only had 2 coffee dates, with Guy2 we already had 5 dates, we even kissed. Guy2 lived in the same city with me. So the timing and the location gave him a bigger chance. I rejected Guy1 with a kind text.
It was awful with Guy2, we didn’t have anything in common, I immediately knew that i chose the wrong one. After 2-3 months I broke up with him. During and after the relationship I still regreted my choice.
When I was single Guy1 texted me again sometimes. A year after the rejection we started talking again for about a month, he seemed really interested in the texts and then I asked him out. He came to the date, but barely talked, was strange and at the end I asked if it was because of the recejtion. He asked why did I change my mind. I told him the truth, but I still think it was about the timing and situation, not them. But he didn’t understand my view and he said that I chose to date someone else over him, and he is good enough not to be someone’s second choice.
I feel terrible because I hurt him and because I really think he is the perfect guy for me. This year the distance wouldn’t be that bad (university things) and the situation is much better for me. The timing was bad.
Can I change his mind somehow? Maybe 1-2 years later could he give me another chance? He seems really salty now, he said that I crushed his ego and he doesn’t even want to talk with me.

[kylee2437]

Unfortunately it’s something where you can’t change his mind as he is allowed to have his own boundaries. It’s a life lesson for you. I know a lot of people say don’t put your eggs in one basket, but once people find out that you were putting other people before them, it hurts them. This is why I now date one person at a time and find time to be comfortable by myself also because how can you sincerely focus on building with one person when you are building new things with 5 different people? It also gives you better insight on when to cut off people that aren’t for you instead of keeping them in rotation of being a “potential” and missing red flags. There’s plenty of people out there, just take it as a life lesson.

[HighValue]

He would never feel like your first choice so I don't think it will work.

[Guy13]

It’s a hard sale. At some point though one has got to let go or move on.

[TheSpaceGnome]

Why are you so absurdly fast to kiss, but also absurdly slow to reject the wrong person?

Try reversing the time tables on those.