Hi, To keep it short my ex of 2 years left me a month ago as I cheated on her with my older ex (5yr relationship and we nearly got married - she left me as I wasn't good enough for her) and when she contacted me after 6 months I didn't think and met her.. I guess I never got over her truely.. I even rang my ex and told her that I am back in touch with my older ex and we are over but then I realized 2 days later that my
Now my ex who left me treated me better than anyone ever has and is perfect in every way so beautiful and caring and I think I was always insecure thinking she will leave me one day she is too good for me..
She left me as she is too scared to get hurt and believes once a cheat always a cheat.
It been a month now and we talk every other day but she acts just like a friend like we were never together but she also has my email and facebook passwords and goes on my facebook to see what I'm up to everyday.. she says its purely as she is nosy and even tho its selfish of her she doesn't want me out of her life yet and wants to remain friends.
She calls me when she wants something or just to see how I am doing and I let her and let her keep my passwords as I think if she wants to know my business she might want to give us a chance again but she is adamant she won't change her mind and that I should move on and that she is past caring about us being together now. But if I'm on the phone she will want to know who it is etc so is very curious to what I could be up to. that fact she is curious makes me think it could be a test to see if I stay and wait to prove I can be loyal or she genuinely just wants to be friends and never anything more..I feel like one day she will get with someone else and I won't be able to stay friends but I am now just becuase I am hoping she will change her mind.
I can honestly say if I had the slightest doubt I would hurt her again I would walk away that's how much I love her, I know she is starting to like another guy as she told me that nobody has every treated her how he does and they kissed once when they were out but there are not together, and I know he wants her becuase he has always tried to get with her.
I just hope someone can advise me if I should wait and leave things how they are or change my passwords etc as it is killing me like this. I have said this before and she just says fine I will stop talking to you but then I call her again and never change my passwords and we are back to talking but literally as friends like we were never more than just friends..
I know she is confused but I think everyday that goes by she is getting over me more and more and spending more time with the other guy but me as time goes by my love is growing stronger and so is the hope even tho she cannot be more clearer that she doesn't want to be with me in our conversations.
Is the fact she goes on my fb really just curiosity and nothing more?
Could there be anyway I could prove how loyal I could be if she takes a chance in me?
Maybe I should text her what anonymous user said? ...
But again she wants to be friends because she loves me! argghhhhh!
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There is nothing you can do but say you are sorry. You made a mistake and made you realize how much she means to you.
Give her a choice:
-Tell her to look at you, and tell you to disappear from her life if she has no feelings for you.
-If she does have some feelings for you, even if it's slight tell her you are willing to wait for her and you will be there as long as it takes for her to finally, either let go of you forever or let you back in her life. (NOTE: don't claim this if you don't HONESTLY mean it...)
Once you get the answer, do accordingly.
-Meaning, if she says she doesn't care for you, move away and stay away. Destroy contact for a while until you feel you are truly over her.
-If you think she is lying if she says this, tell her you think she is lying and your feelings won't change, but still do above.
-If she says she isn't sure, or she still feels something but... Tell her you ask for ONE chance. Don't bow bellow her feet, but do something incredibly romantic for her. Don't beg, but ask, apologize and wait...
If you do love her after you do all this you should either move on, or wait.
Anything but that will do harm to you and her.0
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