I blocked her yet she stares at me?

[Exec09]

We worked together and lost family members at the same time so we talked a lot. I developed feelings and tried to be more than friends with her. She told me she just wanted to be friends and I was someone she deeply cared for and treasured. That rejection really hurt me that my feelings weren't shared. I ended up blocking her and we went on separate paths. Four years later and I've been seeing her with her boyfriend. I always walk past and don't say hi. I always get mixed emotions but say nothing and walk away. Yet I noticed she always stares at me and we make eye contact. I think about her and wonder why she's staring. Yet I also am upset to see her, resist contact and just try to focus on myself and moving on with my life.

[SueShe]

You made the big mistake to involve feelings for her when all she needed was understanding and nothing more. Grieving together does not mean that you have to involve other feelings than the ones that are important at the time of grieving. You had your moment of weakness because you thought that grieving together could potentially also lead to more than just that.

You did but she did not want to reciprocate, which is understandable. You reacted childishly by blocking her. She showed a little more maturity than you did and even today, 4 years later, you haven't moved past this rejection.

She stares at you because she still hopes that you can overcome your rejection and at least say "hi" when you cross her path. That would be the decent thing to do.

[Exec09]

You're comment has been the most insightful and helpful. I blocked her so I couldn't look at her pictures or contact her to help myself move on if my feelings weren't shared. If that's childish then I was wrong. Now with her having her boyfriend I would rather not be her friend and instead be around someone who returns my feelings. I would prefer not to say hi out of respect for her choice and the fact that she is with her boyfriend. I'm generally very happy, busy and taking care of my year old German shepherd. The exception to this is when I see both of them. I never told her but when her family had their loss, in the paper they asked instead of flowers for help to pay for funeral expenses. I donated the money I had saved for supplies and materials for a passion art project of mine. It was 2 years later I finally got those materials and supplies.

[Exec09]

Your comment. My mistake.

[SueShe]

Reading how it came to be, then you are probably right to want to avoid her but a simple "hi" would show that you have overcome your issue. However, I am not in your position and I am unable to determine how this is even feasible with your approach to the entire situation. I am sorry for your loss.

[laly520]

u didn't handle rejection well
I assume she is staring cuz she hoping u would get over rejection n maybe become friends again

[strateguy632]

because you are handsome n she wanted frend zone.

[In_Trance]

Drama on your part

[Badgirlnatalia]

She still likes you