If your partner keeps asking for money, are they using you?

[charles]

She lives in abroad and she wants the money for her bills.

[mattthefatbat]

I too have also been used in this kind of situation, back when I was younger 17 I believed my first date really loved me and I shared everything with her even my debit card but it wasn't until after she drained my debit card, cheated on me around my birthday multiple times and told me the truth that she never really loved me and only pretended to because she pittied me, That I realized the she never really cared about me. After she confessed all of those things, ofcourse she tried to apologize but I had Enough of trying to glue back together something that never really existed in the first place. Then one day after she drained my debit card she told me to get a job or im not talking to you again so I ended the relationship.

But even after that Id say they may not always be using you. I do agree with what Brad says. Recently there have been more instances of people being scammed in this sort of way, some people that are wanting to find love and relationship have contributed thousands even millions of dollars to the one they thought was in love with them, but like what Brad said there are a lot of signs to look for.
Does she specifically tell you why she is depending on you for financial help?
Does she specify what she is paying for?
Does she constantly ask or demand money from you everyday or every other day?
Does she give a ultimatum if she does not receive the money?
Does she ever tell you anything about her financial status? Like is she employed? Does she save her money? Are her friends or family constantly borrowing money from her?
Is the money you send her going towards necessary things that you can see the proof of?
After sometime I met someone new, someone that really cares about my well being and treats me with care the same way I do her which built a better sense of trust and she is very open with me about all the things in her life so she really specified honestly why she was needing my help for necessary things like house bills or tuition fees. She usually tries to avoid having to ask me for financial help whenever possible. So Its usually quite a long time before she may ask for financial help again. Plus she has her own job and saves money

But if you are suspicious that they are using you, test the waters. Ask them honestly how important you giving them money really is in your relationship. A good relationship doesn't have much to do with how much money your able to give someone

[MrOracle]

LDRs are not real, and you are clearly being used. Unless you are spending time IN PERSON with someone on a regular basis, you are NOT in a relationship with them. Instead, you are deluding yourself and are likely being used for your attention, resources, or status (to get residency/a green card).

It's your life and you can do what you want, but don't blame anyone when you find out that she's got 5 other guys she's running the same scan on.

[FreyaRed]

Not if they forgot their purse and need 20 bucks for a sandwich and this doesn't happen too often. Otherwise yes, it's financial exploitation attempt if they want money from you. Of course they will promise you will get it back and it's for a good purpose but after a while when you won't get your money back , you will always realize it's pointless.
The much more worse Question in such situation is, If I wouldn't give him that money would still our relationship die due lack or respect and distrust?

[jennifer_bloom]

My cousin bought me food around 5 times during my birthday on 5 different days in a single month but when I asked her for money she avoided me for around 2 years. There is a difference between somebody giving you something and you believing you have the right to ask for it.

[Artificial Intelligence]

Ah, the classic money dilemma. It's a fine line between supporting and being used, my friend. If she mainly reaches out for financial help and you feel like an ATM rather than a partner, you might be facing a red flag. Relationships should be about more than just financial support. It's crucial to communicate and understand each other's needs without turning love into a transaction. Maybe it's time to have a heart-to-heart conversation about expectations and boundaries. Love should be about emotional support and understanding, not just about opening your wallet. Keep an eye out for lovebombing followed by requests for financial help, it's a classic move! Remember, a healthy relationship involves give and take from both sides.

[Lliam]

Is this a LDR situation? If so, she's scamming you.

I never had to give a girlfriend any money.

[OfMiceandMen]

Sounds to me like she's using you. I would never pay someone's bills across the river let alone one that is across the ocean.

[HelpfulWoman]

yeah thats not a relationship, thats her using you as a cash pig.

[MemeSupreme]

probably bc i don't get people who ask others for money like where's the self respect

[DishLady]

Yeah. I’ve never asked an SO for anything like that in my life.

[Anonymous]

How can you have a partner when she lives abroad?

[Iron_Man]

Some cases no , but in cases where it’s overseas and you never meet her nine times out of 10 yes what do you think

[DextroShade]

So you are giving her money and you haven't even smashed? You are being finessed bro! Cut her off immediately!

[genericname85]

i don't care. it's my money. they can't have it.

[LiamJHayden]

Umm, yes. And probably using others as well.

[slatyb]

Yes, you are being scammed

[Billlewis]

God, I hope so.

[EmmaMary]

Fools and their money soon part. smh

[Hellur991]

I mean are they actually paying back?

[WhitneySnow]

Most likely

[Anonymous]

Hell yeah they are in my view only

[dustybiker2]

True colors flying.

[PeachyPie93]

Yes.

[Unit1]

Duh!

[jahaims]

Duh.