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I'm seeing a guy again after we broke it off about nine months ago because he had commitment issues left over from a previous long term relationship. we've seen each other three times now, he called me quite a few times during the summer and that's how we got in touch, I finally decided to call him back. everything has been really good, but we haven't had a talk about what we are. I feel like he must know I want a relationship, as that's what I wanted before and the reason things got all screwed up between us, he wasn't ready. He's been very gentlemanly I would say, and even though we have had sex, he doesn't push it and didn't push it when the first time we saw each other I didn't want to. the first time we hung out he told me he likes me (kind of knew that already, he'd been calling all summer) when I asked him what he wanted from me he said he didn't know, which is actually different from the past where he mostly specified very specifically that he did not want a relationship. We've hung out during the day in a park, and been out to dinner twice, after both of those times we did have sex and I stayed over. Last night was the third time we hung out, and I asked him I think twice about whether he had good intentions and he said he did. I hope he wasn't just trying to appease me because that's usually not his style, and he has been clear in the past about not wanting to "hurt me" and whatever when he wasn't ready. So I'm not sure what to make of things, they seem to be going well, but can anyone give me a better read on how things sound? I really want to move toward something committed, but I'm scared to have that talk with him even though we've been having such a great time together.

Then do you think he just wants a hook-up/friends with benefits kind of relationship? I haven't actually had sex with him, but we make out pretty heavily and shirts fly, and each time he tries for more and more. Which I'm not saying I don't like... but I'm just so confused, because we talk a lot and I feel like we have a connection, but I don't know if he feels like that too? And it's only been three weeks, where we've barely talked during the week but hang out one day of the weekend well into the night, so I don't know if it's too soon to ask him about that, or will it scare him off? What I don't want is to go too far and then get hurt when he doesn't want anything else. I know he really likes me, but what does he want?

And it bothers me that he won't really text me during the week, and when we do he's enthusiastic about answering but immediately suggests plans for the weekend; making dinner at one of our places and a movie (which we never watch).

Ugh, hate this feeling. Any advice? Am I making any sense lol? Or just being crazy? Lol I totally am being crazy. I'm sorry, I just really like him! Cut me some slack haha. Anyway, ask anything if you need to know more.