My hookup told me he liked me in July. Dubious because I was just hurt by someone else I told him I don't normally date - but I never said no. In September we hooked up a few more times (and he really liked to cuddle and make eye contact during sex and be goofy and fun afterwards). I told him I kind of liked him too - but this was after he said he wasn't sure of what he wanted. He never texts me first or snapchats me anymore. He ignored one last week and I said "I guess you really are too busy. I'll leave you alone from now on. If you miss me, get in touch." He didn't, but he always checks my snapchat stories. Today, I sent another message to say "I didn't mean to be dismissive. I'm still DTF if you are? I still like you enough to try something more, but you already kind of hurt me - and still kind of are actually." And still nothing. Do I just move on? I deleted his number and thread so I can't initiate more contact. Do I just wait and then that's my answer?
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Too much talk and not enough action to back it up. I don't want to offend you or hurt you, but I'm going to put it blunt how it likely looks to him:
Had you just left it alone when he ignored your text last week, I guarantee he'd try pursuing again after some time. And if you kept acting interested but allowing him to initiate, it probably would've led back to you liking him as well (considering he did have feelings for you after hooking up in the first place).
However, you followed it up by telling him you'd leave him alone, which showed that it really bothered you he didn't answer and you were being a bit emotionally manipulative to get him to answer you. It would've been best to say nothing. HOWEVER, if you'd backed it up by actually leaving him alone, it still would've been better than reaching out again a few days later saying you're still "DTF." Now you look desperate and low-value in his eyes. He doesn't believe anything you say and he thinks you're hooked on him even though he's done hardly anything for you.
Again, don't take it personal, we have ALL been there, but this is likely what he's thinking. What you should do now is completely let it go. Do not initiate with him again after all these ignored messages. And if he does initiate with you, if all you want is a hookup, then go for it. If you want him as a boyfriend (or more than a hookup situation), don't let it go to sex. Continue to show interest, but don't sleep with him, and stop initiating with him until you find out if he's more interested in you again.
That's my best advice! Good luck :)0