I told him how I feel, now what?

[twinkle76]

So I told my best friend he was more than a friend to me, and that I couldn't pretend otherwise any more. Its long distance so its difficult and I had to do it in an email.

I didn't expect what I got back, two pages worth of stuff about feelings but which basically amount to he is not able to have a relationship just now. He also went on to tell me he loved me, call me perfect and his home(?) all of which is sweet but I was a bit crushed.

Since then, on the occasions we've met up its been hand holding, arm round me, long hugs and kisses on the cheek when I don't expect them.

I don't want to try to force the issue, as he knows exactly how I feel and there's only so many times a girl can put herself out there. But his behavior since I told him leads me to believe he isn't as anti relationship as he says.

He is very inexperienced with girls and I don't think that helps.

Am I kidding myself? can any good ever come of this?

Updates

+1 y

Hey, so its been a few months. I tried to talk about it more, and found out that my friend is suffering from clinical depression. For now I'm trying to listen, with his doc. I still feel the same. I hope it work out, he's still acting the same

[20Questions]

Its good to hear that you have stuck around with him. I believe that no person is beyond hope. Four of the greatest words a person can give are, 'I believe in you.' I have a father figure who believed in me when I was at my lowest point, and now I'm making something of my life and the future looks bright. So never give up on him - you may have to step away from him for a while, especially if you feel emotionally drained - but never give up.

Remember that:

‘‘Love bears up under anything and everything that comes, is ever ready to believe the best of every person, its hopes are fadeless under all circumstances, and it endures everything; love never fails.''

‘‘And so faith, hope, love remain, these three; but the greatest of these is love.’’

As one great preacher said, ''an overwhelming flow of love can solve problems which nothing else can.''

And remember that love has to be worked at. Sorry to write so long! I hope you guys succeed in your relationship.

[theonedrluv]

i think there is hope he may be a little stand offish not sure how to persue a relation give the guy time to blosoom ,hang in there you might have to coax him along a little he might need a lot of assurance being unexperienced he could have a lack of self cofidence

[blondie45]

He's sending mix messages to you! Its all about what you want! You said previously, he hasn't had much experience with women, and that is huge! I speak from personal experience, a man that hasn't had many relationships with women are basically insecure. While the innocence is sweet, it can turn sour. I would say, if your feeling things more than him, you should step back...and look at the situation realistically. Ask yourself, is that what I want?

The answers lie within you...follow your instincts and be prepared to take action!

[rockmom]

he sounds like a good guy, just enjoy what you have together and maybe it will progress naturally. maybe you freaked him out, especially with the distance issue.

[twinkle76]

Well, he has decided he's moving closer to me, so I guess we'll see. See that's just 1 more mad signal!

[20Questions]

I think it can but you need to get to the root of the issue; maybe he's in a bad place emotionally or financially (or something else-ially) so a relationship isn't really on the agenda right now...his inexperience sounds like a big obstacle, it could easily affect his confidence on a more sexual, intimate level...you should chat deep with him about whether its gonna progress between yous two...but I think it could