I met a man in Feb of last year. We dated 2-3 months, and then he told me he was scared of commitment and wasn't ready for a relationship. At the time I was okay with it because I wasn't infatuated with him, and he is the first man I've been 100% sexually compatible with. I accepted his feelings and we continued seeing each other about once a week. We connected emotionally and shared a lot of our past.
I started to really like him, which led to feelings of resentment and jealousy because even though he didn't share details, I knew he was seeing/sleeping with other women. I dated a bit myself, but he's the only man I've slept with in over a year.
Two weeks ago we went to a wedding together and as we were leaving, he blurts out that he's been seeing someone and is considering committing to her, but hasn't made any decisions. He admitted he has been open to the idea of commitment and curious, and is trying to emotionally mature and stop "chasing skirts."
The next day I texted him and basically said, "I won't wait around while you make up your mind, we can be friends but the sex has to end." He accepted and I decided not to contact him while I tried to move on.
Yesterday he reached out and asked how I've been. He ended up telling me he and this girl are exclusive now. These last two weeks have been very painful and in the back of my mind I'd been hoping he missed me and regretted things. He's not a sociopath, so he definitely cares about me and is attached in some form, but it's clearly not enough for him to want to be with me.
I never told him I like him. He must know I was hurt because I couldn't hide it very well two weeks ago, but I think he assumes I'm just a girl and my feelings are just shallow, possessive feelings.
Should I tell him how I feel? I don't expect him to drop his girlfriend for me, but I really want to get this off my chest. I tried to fool myself (and him) into believing I didn't care for so long, and it's just eating me up.
I started to really like him, which led to feelings of resentment and jealousy because even though he didn't share details, I knew he was seeing/sleeping with other women. I dated a bit myself, but he's the only man I've slept with in over a year.
Two weeks ago we went to a wedding together and as we were leaving, he blurts out that he's been seeing someone and is considering committing to her, but hasn't made any decisions. He admitted he has been open to the idea of commitment and curious, and is trying to emotionally mature and stop "chasing skirts."
The next day I texted him and basically said, "I won't wait around while you make up your mind, we can be friends but the sex has to end." He accepted and I decided not to contact him while I tried to move on.
Yesterday he reached out and asked how I've been. He ended up telling me he and this girl are exclusive now. These last two weeks have been very painful and in the back of my mind I'd been hoping he missed me and regretted things. He's not a sociopath, so he definitely cares about me and is attached in some form, but it's clearly not enough for him to want to be with me.
I never told him I like him. He must know I was hurt because I couldn't hide it very well two weeks ago, but I think he assumes I'm just a girl and my feelings are just shallow, possessive feelings.
Should I tell him how I feel? I don't expect him to drop his girlfriend for me, but I really want to get this off my chest. I tried to fool myself (and him) into believing I didn't care for so long, and it's just eating me up.
