What should I do with my friends with benefits, Could he possibly feel something?

[Anonymous]

I fell hard for my friends with benefits. We been having sex on and off for several months and I LOVE having sex with him and hanging out with him. But whenever he goes hours without texting me or even days , the inconsistency and us going no where hurts me so much so I ended up cutting him off and took him off from all my social media. So he got pretty hurt by that and blocked me on Snapchat. Anyways 3 weeks later he added me on social media again and he texted me saying he wanted to see me real quick. So I went to go see him and he surprised me with a gift for Christmas, I was not expecting that at all. When we had each other off from social media and cut ties I told myself I need to move on, I was determined to move on and I’m pretty sure I was but now that he came back, it’s so hard again.. I feel all these feelings again and specially him doing this nice thing for me by surprising me got me so happy. When we were friends with benefits he treated me so well and we would have long conversations together whenever we hung out , he would rub my feet , always tell me how beautiful I am , was always so gentle with me. Everything just felt so right with him but I just don’t know if he sees me more as friends with benefits. I hate how hard I fell for him , he’s An amazing guy to me.

[Dongtai]

Find a guy who wants a relationship. Don’t try to turn a friends with benefits into a partner. Most of the time it’s one sided. You don’t seem like the type who can handle a friends with benefits relationship and that’s perfectly fine. Find a guy who wants a relationship with “you”.


If a guy is already having sex with you and you’ve expressed wanting to be in a relationship with him-If he doesn’t swoop you off of the market, he only wants you for the sex (which is what a friends with benefits is). Trust me. A man knows when he wants a woman. Especially when sex is involved. Most men will value their woman too much to risk her moving on to another guy. If he isn’t accepting your advances it means he doesn’t care enough to commit. If you keep pursuing him you’ll keep going in circles until he finds better.


He’s hitting you up the way he is because he doesn’t want to lose is easy access to sex but once he finds a girl who pleases his sexual needs, or even better, a woman who he WANTS to be with shows up, he will let you go unless he tries to keep you on the side.

[Wewladdy]

Why would a man be interested in a slut lmao

[Dongtai]

Do you know what a slut is?

[Wewladdy]

Someone whose easy. And someone who has sex without even being in a relationship is incredibly easy.

[Dongtai]

It’s actually defined as a woman who has multiple casual sex partners. She’s only mentioned one guy. You might want to touch up your understanding of the words you use before you use them as insults.

She’s only having sex with one guy. How does that make her a slut?

[Asker]

Thank you so much. You’re answer actually helped me a lot , it’s tough not having anyone to talk to but hearing this advice really hit me and opened my eyes. It won’t be easy but I got it ! Thank you once again 🙏🏼🙏🏼

[Asker]

@Wewladdy you must be lost and clearly don’t know what the meaning of slut is

[Wewladdy]

I define slut as anyone who is easy. But semantics don't matter. Keep on being loose if you think itll make you happy.

[Dongtai]

@Wewladdy Why are you so unhappy?

[Wewladdy]

I'm not overall, but I do believe it's impossible finding a woman with an ounce of self respect nowadays. Shame. Not safe to raise kids anymore with these weirdos running around.

[Dongtai]

@Wewladdy Why do you think it’s impossible to find a decent woman?

[Wewladdy]

Promiscuity has been normalized even moreso than drug abuse. People have no dignity anymore, no morals. It seems like it's either settle, be alone, or win the jackpot and find that 1 in 10 woman who will be a good wife.

[Wewladdy]

Oh yeah a guy who uses you as a cocksleeve totally is head over heels for you girl.

[sheikalana]

Been in the same situation for the past six years LOL the difference is that I'm not in love with him anymore but I still love his company and hanging out with him. Trust me, when a man wants to be in a relationship with a woman he will be pretty straight forward and ask you to be his girlfriend he won't beat around the bush. You're probably very special to him and that's why he gave you a Christmas gift. My best advise is don't have high expectations in this date other people in the meantime, fall in love with other people, give chances to other people to date you too and you'll be fine.

[spartan55]

Fell for an friends with benefits? No way! So stupid. You shouldn't have entered into an friends with benefits when you didn't want it.

[spartan55]

And to answer, if he was feeling something more you would be his girlfriend.. but you're not. Everything else, the gifts, the foot rubs, all that bullshit DOES NOT MATTER.

[Agem123]

friends with benefits is not for everyone!!