Should I talk to my friend with benefits?

[Anonymous]

I have a friend that I've known for so long.. for the last four months we got really closer and somehow we started a friends with benefits thing... he told me once that his last relationship was so toxic that he can not be with someone because he's afraid it would happen again... we were just friends when he told me that and I didn't have any feelings for him but now I started to feel something and I think he does too... we are too close, we see each other almost everyday... we kiss we cuddle, hold hands for too long... I am not sure what to do and I'm afraid if I talk to him I'd scare him off

[spartan55]

He told you how he feels, now you want to change the game and that's not cool. If he wanted to be in a respectable relationship with you, he would. It doesn't matter how long you hold hands, or how many forehead kisses you get, any of that stuff. Does. not. matter.

I don't buy his excuse by the way.

[FilmGuy93]

You probably will scare him off, if you say something. My best advice in these situations is to just enjoy the moment. Y'all have something nice, so why upset the apple cart if you don't need to?

[Jerre]

I would definitely talk with him. I always talk with my FWBs, find out what is on their mind. We usually go out for dinner where it’s easy to talk with them. Then back to my house for a glorious night of fucking and man, many orgasms.

[Stevefiveo]

Definitely talk to him. It is natural to be defensive when you just got hurt. But it sounds like you earned him trust. Maybe talk to him in bed after sex and tell him how you feel. Good luck.

[Anonymous]

If your too afraid to talk to him, then maybe it’s not right to be with him in the first place.