What am I supposed to do with my friend with benefits?

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Im getting bored to be around him sometime, but when he's not around I feel disappointed and upset. I've been asking him if we should stop this relationship. And he said he doesn't want to break this relationship.

I believe a guy can have other girls easier. Which is why I wanted to call it quit. To be honest, I'm getting mixed feelings for other guys even tho me and other guys are just being platonic. I wish my friend with benefits could be fun as my platonic male friends.

Ages ago, I found out that he bad mouthed me to other girls, but then I decided to take a break. Long story short, we continued this relationship as he kept begging. Now, I don't know if I should stay until he decided to leave me..

ohsheeT · Accepted Answer

Friends with benefits is supposed to be one of your best friends you're supposed to have fun together you're supposed to laugh and enjoy you're supposed to be able to tell each other anything and everything no worries ever you sound like you're going to a divorce if you're not happy you need to get out of it because that's not what friends are benefits is all about he should be calling you up calling you a little cum dump slut. Tell you exactly how not he's going to be and how he's going to f*** your brains out everything he's going to do to you and then tell a stupid joke and you're both going to be excited and you're both going to meet and he's going to pound you he's going to give it to you like you want it that you will never get it because there's nobody ever that open he's going to wind you bayou naughty things to wear slap your ass tell you jokes be so open with you it's unreal but you know how to take it because you know down deep he's a good guy and he f**** your brains out whether it's a pounding or whether it's in very very slow deep motion just rocking your world until you just f****** come everywhere that's what it is all about it's not about oops sorry I lost myself LOL

You should have had rules if you said I love you I miss you I need you I want you and it's over with but if you can be the best of friends give each other what you absolutely love it can be one of the most beautiful relationships you will ever have I think that he has a girlfriend or has another friends with benefits and you're feeling left out and he's not doing you like he's supposed to well you need to tell him that getting back on the right side of the track either that or you get on the right side of the track and pound him it's a two-way street tell him what you want tell him what you need but I guarantee it if you tell him that you want him or you love him or you need him it's over with

I mean it could work but it's all in timing and it's how good of a bond you guys had from day one to this day

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Navigating a friends-with-benefits relationship can be challenging, especially when you start experiencing mixed feelings and boredom. It's important to prioritize your own emotional well-being and assess whether the relationship is truly fulfilling for you.

If you're feeling disappointed and upset when he's not around, it could indicate that you have developed deeper feelings for him beyond the casual arrangement. In such cases, it's worth considering whether continuing the friends-with-benefits dynamic is beneficial for you in the long run.

If you've already expressed your desire to end the relationship and he doesn't want to break it off, it's crucial to have an open and honest conversation about your concerns and feelings. Let him know how you've been feeling bored and that you're developing mixed feelings for other guys, even if they are just platonic relationships. It's important for both of you to understand each other's expectations and emotional needs.

However, it's also important to remember that you have agency in this situation. If the relationship is no longer fulfilling or healthy for you, it may be best to consider ending it on your own terms, rather than waiting for him to decide. You deserve to be in a relationship or arrangement that brings you happiness and fulfillment.

Take some time for self-reflection and evaluate what you truly want and need from a relationship. Consider discussing your concerns with a trusted friend or seeking guidance from a professional counselor or therapist who can provide you with personalized advice and support.

LaFemmeFatale_1 · Accepted Answer

You don’t have to continue relationship with anyone, as I understand friends with benefits - is mainly just having sex with him, and he begged to have sex with you, you are not supposed to have sex out of pity.

You can’t sleep with anyone who begs…. You are not mother Theresa.

provokeesmokee · Accepted Answer

You don't need a reason to leave behind the friends with benefits.

You didn't promise anything, he sounds like he expected a relationship instead of just friends with benefits. That's HIS problem.

Cut the relationship.

AviatorTom · Answer

There's only one thing you're supposed to do with an friends with benefits... have sex, preferably enjoyable sex. If that's not happening, go find another guy to fuck.

Walt832 · Answer

I have been in friends with benefits. It lasted for 2 years 😂. We knew each since middle school. This type relationship started in college. Through out the community college we had plenty of sex and we explore a lot of things 😂. As we stepped on our 3 year we called the quits. We had to split due to going different universities. The agreement through the 2 years if we ever had mix feelings, bored, or started to date, immediately to stop our friends with benefits.

Remember was my friend since middle school. We still are but we no longer communicate after graduation. She got married. So if you love your friends you must learn to let go and let them be happy. If didn't had sex at all different scenario will be. Is a price we pay 😂 but hey was well worth it.

So this dude you must let him go. Is time, you can't stay and feel forced to be. He ain't no one to hold you.

Be you and set yourself free.

Anonymous · Answer

Either you leave or stay in this situation. Friends w benefits is just that, sex. Nothing more. No fun dates, movies, etc. it’s basically when I need to bust a nut I can call you up, we meet, do the deed then move on our way. You start getting into the dinners, movies, etc, now it feels like you’re dating which could potentially lead to feelings for one another. As for you thinking men can get women easier lol no that’s not true. A majority of women could walk outside, ask a man if he wants to fuck, he’d say yes. May not be what she’s looking for ideally look wise but men will jump on it. Women aren’t going to jump on an ugly, fat dude who went out asking women if they want to fuck no matter how desperate they are.

asphaltrhymes · Answer

Guess you both can always just discuss it friendly and politely as adults over coffee or over a peaceful lunch and just pleasantly toned discuss where you and where he see things romantically. Or if the goals are aligned. Otherwise why not both amicably agree to either drift together or drift away gradually 👀👀💗

Anonymous · Answer

Ghost him slowly and move on maybe try doing girls for a while.

Don't worry about his feelings he made it clear he does not care about yours!

My wife wants to do a friends with benefits with another women now that she is pregnant. Honestly I'd love to join in or just watch.

All you can do is be strug along by him or slowly ghost him. He probably is seeing other women and hidding it.

You have needs you should get yours met!

GoingNooWhere · Answer

friends with benefits he has no obligation to be fun as friends with benefits despite there being friends in the name it's mostly just about the sex

DarkWinterNights · Answer

This sounds like a mess. friends with benefits is only supposed to be about having no strings attached sex. It sounds like you’re in more of a situationship. Also- how many platonic males friends do you have in your late 20’s?

crossdressingrihno · Answer

Break things off. He’s been badmouthing you and you don’t need him. Whether you just want a play thing or something more theirs much better options out there.

boggboss · Answer

What are u actually looking for a casual relationship or a actual friends with benefits because why does him being fun matter sorry

mommymommymommy · Answer

Only be around for when you need it. That's all you're supposed to do with a supposed friends with benefits. If you can't handle that, DONT DO IT. DONT FUCK WITH HIM

gothbxtch · Answer

he sounds toxic, and it sounds like you don’t consent to being in this relationship with him anymore. you should leave.

Alex8736 · Answer

If it's just friends with benefits all you do is when you're in the mood you hit em up, get it on, then go on with your day

CuriousMufuxka · Answer

Sounds like your mind is making it friends with complications, thus the time to stop the random hooking up and get serious or split.

Anonymous · Answer

You and Bubbs need to talk again because it sounds like more than friends with benefits is happening.

KatherineJ · Answer

Leave and don’t look back.

RHK36 · Answer

Move on and find someone on the same page

karekaaaa · Answer

He won't leave u  Let him in ur life why not

FunkyMonkee · Answer

Fuck him!

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