My ex best friend just contacted me after 4 months of not speaking

[liquidlithium]

So here's the story, this girl and I had been best friends for eight years, and I mean BEST friends, together all the time, I trusted her with my life, people said all the time we were like the exact same person.

I moved away, and met a guy in another city who I had dated for 3.5 years. When we broke up, I was so distraught that I moved back home for her help.

She started dating this guy 6 months before I moved back, he was her first REAL relationship.

Simply put, she didn't make time for me, everything revolved around him, she ditched me, she wasn't there for me in a nutshell. She had another friend "L" who she began to do the same things too.

Then, my best friend came out of the blue and started saying things like, I wanted her boyfriend, I was making "sex eyes" at him, and what not.

Well I got p*ssed obviously because its like your my best friend, I have never changed my personality, you know me better then that, how could you ever say something like that to me, and especially when I'm going through such a bad breakup.

Well me and L started hanging out, and the more we hung out, L began to tell me all these things about how much sh*t my best friend had been talking about me.

Clearly that was my final straw. She was supposed to be my best friend, sh*t talking, especially that was the ONE thing I never thought she would do.

So we hadn't spoke in 4 months, and me and L became pretty close since, until today.

I finally agreed to have lunch with my ex best friend. We talked about everything and I was blown away.

She swore to my on her Baba's grave that she never talked sh*t about me like that, never, that she would never do that, and that it was in fact L that said all those things.

I was stunned, k first off, my best friends Baba meant the world to her, and she just recently passed away, I know she wouldn't swear on her grave if it wasn't true, I know that.

I just don't know what to do, me and L have gotten really close, but apparently she has been the one talking sh*t about me, my best friend was so emotional, like bawling saying how she knew she f***ed up with the whole boyfriend thing, she didn't do what a best friend should, but she made a mistake and kept trying to contact me and she couldn't figure out why I wouldn't give her the chance to make up for it.

THE ONLY REASON I stopped responding was after I heard about the sh*t talking, that was the only reason I felt I couldn't be friends with her again...

I'm at a loss, I'm stunned, I don't know what to do or who to believe. I only started hanging out with L after me and my best friend started having a falling out, so I haven't even known her for that long...But I knew my best friend for 8 years...It was just the whole blaming me for wanting her boyfriend was so out of character for her, that's the only reason why I believed she talked sh*t...

I don't know what to do I feel like I'm in a daze, everything I knew is now backwards...

[Katiekay325]

you said you trusted her w your life right? well you know in your heart that you still do. give her another chance you know that saying 3s a crowd well that's probley what L was thinking too. no really she seems sincere give her another chance getting in fights w your best friend is hard I no but it helps your relationship grow also you know.

i hope I helped

oh and is your best friend Croatian or Russian or Slavic cus I'm croatian and I use baba to and I have not heard another young person say that in forever I mean other then my best friend who's Russian lol

[brave1997]

i'm nigerian and i call my grandpa baba

[lafeeverte]

believe your best friend, youve known her way longer. and yeah she might have ditched you for her boyfriend, but it sounds like she was insecure, especially since it was her first real relationship, she was probably just infatuated with him and wanted to spend all her time with him. as long as she realizes she was wrong and is asking you for a 2nd chance, I would give her one.

[Anonymous]

if it was your bestfriend's first real relationship, then you have to give her another chance, you should still be able to trust her.

[josephbetter]

Journeys have secret destinations that is unaware. destination isn’t really that important as long as we’re up for the journey.

[Anonymous]

You need to meet up with both of them together and confront L. I suggest go with your gut on it after that. Your best friend sounds pretty genuine though.