Advice about friends with benefits?

[Anonymous]

I was in a friends with benefits situation recently, he spent a few months pursuing me sending weekly messages. We hooked up and been seeing each other on and off for months. I tried to distance myself from him a few times silently going away due to not being treated well with him contacting me why he was unfriended. I tried to explain a few times that things he was doing wasn't nice. He was obsessed with my ex who he constantly brought up, was talking about me to his best friend telling me they were discussing I wasn't happy and should have left my ex along time ago and then told me about this conversation. To much hot and cold behaviour from him as well and the lies he tells and the future fake. I went into it as a casual thing not with expectations, I even encouraged him to meet other people and when I asked he said he wasn't seeing anyone else but found out he was lying, as we weren't using protection yes stupid I know so It blew up the other night his words were I'm not doing this all the time bye. I always thought casual friends with benefits thing was supposed to be about honesty, no feelings involved but unfortunately I did get feelings or maybe I'm angry I was duped into getting feelings for him. My question is are friends with benefits supposed to be hot and cold, into personal life, talking about beating up my ex etc?

[boggboss]

People really are able to do a friends with benefits situation properly and just view it as a way to get parts of a relationship without having to commit which would be fine but the issue is they don't tend to be honest and with what they truly want

[Asker]

I have no clue what he wanted, I was miffed hed be discussing me and my ex something I never discussed with him to his friend.

[boggboss]

Some guys like doing the whole relationship like stuff but on their own terms and with the ability to at any point dip out with the but we ain't together even tho they act as if they was at a point

[FateofOphelia]

This sometime happens with friends with benefits

Mine were never like that.

[Anonymous]

Your crazy

[Asker]

do you normally troll women online?

[Opinion Owner]

What do you mean

[Asker]

I asked the question, you've called me crazy so I assume you're trolling me or is it the only way to get women's attention, bully mentality.. You might want to work on those issues.