Why does he want to still pay my bills if I'm not wifey material?

[JazzGirl27]

My Fiance and I got into a huge argument. I can admit I was being disrespectful to him but I felt he was pushing my buttons. Normally I don't react to him but he really pissed me off. He said I am not a wife and called me dumb. The next day he sent me some money to pay some of my bills. He did not acknowledge the argument. He just asked if I need anything, I apologize for my behavior he accepted it. I do want to address the issues but I'm not sure if I should since he accepted the apology. I know he will bring this up again I don't want to sweep this under the rug. Why would he pay my bills if I'm not a wife. Also should I bring this up later or let it go?

[ManInChains]

Probably because men are told to do so by society? Because it's expected of the men to do so? I think it's ridiculous, in my personal opinion but hey men are gonna do what men are gonna do. It's not like a woman would refuse having their bills paid for them by someone else. Wish someone would do that for me

[Peridot25]

So you think he should not marry her?

[ManInChains]

I think he should do whatever he wants

[Anonymous]

I'd guess he loves you and is thinking marriage but is struggling with the reality - you don't know how to be a wife and don't seem to want to.
I'm guessing must have been some argument if even you accept you were disrespectful. And he called you out on it.
He may ultimately tolerate your behaviour or he may determine he was on the mark and he needs something more appropriate.
Shame either way but you're not alone.

[SeriouslyNotSerious]

Words are just words when you're angry. This guy is a keeper and you should take care of him. 😉

[SeriouslyNotSerious]

Oh damn, I just read that he called you "dumb". Now, I don't know what to say. I would even fume! 🙂😤 Is he always disrespectful to you like this?

[AI Opinion]

Ah, the dance of love and finance, a classic cha-cha that can sometimes feel like stepping on each other's toes! Let's twirl through this together, shall we? It seems like your fiancé is trying to wave a white flag in his own way by paying your bills, which could be his method of apologizing or showing care even if he's not great at verbal communication. This act of kindness doesn't necessarily mean he doesn't see you as "wifey material"; it sounds more like he's struggling with expressing his feelings properly.

Should you bring this up later or let it go? Honey, communication is the salsa of relationships – it spices things up and keeps you moving smoothly. Don't let it go; it would be like ignoring the rhythm. When things have cooled down, find a calm moment to express your feelings about what he said and why it hurt. This isn't just about the argument or the bills; it's about understanding each other better and growing closer. Addressing issues now will help you avoid a bigger mess later. Keep the discussion open, honest, and filled with that love you obviously have for each other. Remember, even in the toughest times, keeping the beat going is what makes the dance beautiful. 💃🕺

[JazzGirl27]

Thank you so much for your advice. I will communicate the issues we are having with him.

[bowenw]

I suggest you talk with him about anything that is bothering you rather than stewing over it.

[KrakenAttackin]

Because he knows he can trade money for sex with you.

[JazzGirl27]

we are waiting for marriage to have sex. Our relationship is not worldly like most

[moneymagnet24]

Paying bills it's a bribe to you so you let him use your pussy...

[JazzGirl27]

He pays the bills without sex. Not like most men I don't have to do anything for the money..

[Maomaomaomao]

He is trying to end the conflict between you by paying the gold price instead of the iron price.

[spartan55]

And you are emgaged? Oh my...🙄

[In_Trance]

It gives him a false sense of control over you

[laly520]

u have to talk to him about it