My boyfriend HATES eating me out while my friend with benefits LOVES it?

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My boyfriend hates eating me out. He said it tastes awful and always refused to do it (or he forces himself to do it for like less than a minute and stops). However, I always blow him. On the other hand, my friend with benefits loves to eat me out. He could do it for like an hour or so and never complain about the taste. He would even lick but asshole and says how yummy they all taste. What do I do now? I'm a virgin so no sex oral is the farthest I've been to and I enjoy it but my boyfriend hates going down on me. I know it's wrong to have a friend with benefits but I'm not gonna break up with my bf just because he won't eat me out. Helppp what do I do now? Should I stop with my friend with benefits since it's wrong? or what, but he gives me more pleasure? Errrr I'm so confused on what should I do.

Lauren2410 · Accepted Answer

"Don't judge too quickly if you don't know the entire story." It's like you're a broken record. We got it. This reminded me of this photo, haha s2.quickmeme.com/.../...38856e83372a483744489e.jpg

On a more serious note, fine I get that you've been cheated one before, but that doesn't mean you should continue this line of cheaters and be one. You get a boyfriend, you lose the fwb. You don't like the boyfriend, you break up with the dude and then go back to your fwb. Not cheat! Because it makes you no better than the ones who did this to you before. "I've been hurt in the past/cheated on" is not an excuse to hurt other people. We all go through bullshit in life, doesn't mean we have to give it to others too.
So make a decision. You want the friends with benefits (look I mean just for fun til you find another boyfriend) , then break up with your boyfriend and leave it like this. Don't make it any worse.
You wanna stay with the boyfriend, you gotta tell him or at least END the friends with benefits thing. After this, you can do what I say next. Also maybe he simply doesn't enjoy performing oral, it may not be you. Maybe he likes actual intercourse. You could also take a shower before and ask him to do it again. Because even if you've cleaned yourself in the morning for example, you're still gonna go through heat outside, or maybe you'll do some exercising, so even though the vagina has the property to clean itself doesn't mean it also releases natural soap or perfume smell or strawberry taste.

Hoeswillbehoes · Accepted Answer

I've been with my boyfriend alittle over a year I graced the feeling of being eaten out. But he didn't really like it because he saw no point in it he didn't see the pleasure inbit but I gave him head whenever he wanted it even tho I didn't see the pleasure in that. He's gotten back from a weekend away and we've fucked twice and he's eaten me out while fingering my pussy and ass at the same time, twice and he's gone for near enough to half a hour and he's had me cumming in his mourh and it dripping down his face and beard
at least 6 times he's had me dripping in cum and biting my lip trying to hold back my screams. He dont do it all the time but fuck when he does God damn. If i had it every night it probably wouldn't be so intense. But don't be a slut and screw around for it if he dont shoe he loves you and won't eat you out leave him. Tell him your a self centered bitch you have been cheating on him and that it's not him it you tell him he deserves better because he does you say you got cheated on well doesn't give you the right.

JulieXO · Accepted Answer

@rthomas43 - perfect description of the situation

If you are together with a person, you shouldn't have a friend with benefits. I don't care what the "entire story" is, it's wrong either way. You refuse to sleep with him, he refuses to eat you out, not everybody wants to do everything. You could totally figure it out. if only you weren't a selfish, empathy-lacking hoe who only cares about her own pleasure. You srsly cheat on the person you should love because he isn't into oral? Either break up with him or suck it up and get over it, don't play games like this.

Popeye123 · Accepted Answer

In all my relationships I've never cheated on someone - I think it's so wrong and my parents even said they'd throw me out the house if I ever did :,)

Somehow I'm failing to believe the legitimacy of your story and while having two people on the go when one is your boyfriend isn't particularly right. If your boyfriend is aware of this other guy and is ok with what's going on then each to their own. When if you've been cheated on all your life then you're still in the wrong. If it were true. I don't think doing something you've experienced and disliked to someone else is particularly mature (if you were telling the truth). The only reason I'm saying this is because if your boyfriend doesn't know then first of all he should - if he decides to leave then that's his choice, if not then all is well. In regards to the question with sexual activity - tell your boyfriend to man up and try using various products when you wash to make the smell and taste better.

As a little extra though - I don't believe the legitimacy of this story completely and by your wording it sounds like you want to spark a reaction - so this reply is all I'll say.

Paritosh23 · Accepted Answer

All you said was - Don't judge too quickly if you don't know the entire story.
First problem - Eating out - not everyone is expert, so if he wants to learn , he would else leave him or have sex with him for pleasure or teach him how to use finger to pleasure you..

Second unmentioned problem - I have been cheated before but I am open to the fact that lot of people in life are asshole , but there are 7 billion people out of which 3.5 billion are females and at least out of 3.5 billion people, 80 million are in my age , even if out of 80 million girls , 20 millions are not asshole, I still have lot of girls who will be good and not cheat..

PS: Leave your bf, you dont love him. You can find other friend (s) with benefits to please you down there..

saccharose · Answer

Actually, I feel it's disgusting, I mean you are a "virgin" depicts innocence mostly but on the other hand you have friend with benefits other than your bf. I am sorry to say but it feels pretty fucked up. Although I don't know the story and I don't know if you both are that open, but if he is not and you are then it is pretty bad and for that case just leave your bf or tell him about it instead of lying to him. You are old enough to know that relationships base on trust and not lies. Anyways, good luck with your whatever drama.

Sex-Kitten · Answer

Wow, having a relationship and cheating? That's cold. I mean, if you're honest from the start and kind of say "I want an open relationship" and the guy KNOWS this and decides to stick around, it's a different story. But otherwise, damn.

To answer your question though, people have different taste buds and preferences. Some people like ice-cream, some don't. Showers, clean lingerie and a good diet will help you. Eat pineapple. Seriously.

Now back to the REAL issue- double timing, seriously?
I'd love to hear this "story" that's the motivator here. I don't approve of what you're doing, but maybe you could tell your side of the story before I jump to harsh conclusions?

Lovergirl1561 · Answer

You know i've been cheated on by every guy i've ever dated and because of that I know how bad it hurts, but if for once you've found a guy who isn't cheating on you yet you're still doing shit with someone else you clearly don't care how this guy would feel if someone was to tell him or he found out, if you did you would have dropped the  friends with benefits  instead of sticking with him as well, so what your BF don't like the cherry/tuna/rose whatever you wanna call it, it's still no reason to be doing this to him, so what if you  friends with benefits  eats you out, you say you care about love more then pleasure yet your cheating because your boyfriend won't munch on your nectar, I think you need to just drop both and figure out what kind of person you want to be in life, a girl who'd rather have a guy on the side or a faithful loving GF maybe oneday Wife to some guy

sammy_31 · Answer

You don't want to be judged but we are on an opinion website. So... you are being judged so to speak and although you're a virgin, you are a slut. You set yourself up honey.

haddleduddle · Answer

Sorry, what? I don't buy your virgin act, not one bit. Break up with your boyfriend, this is leading nowhere since you just cheat on him. And keep the friends with benefits, you deserve each other. Come on, clear what's left of your mind.

Stop lying to yourself and us.

BeardedDude · Answer

Questions like this are the reason I am leaving this site. It confuses me that these situations are real. I realize no one is perfect but cheating and then complaining about something so frivolous.

I think a better question would be "Why am I cheating on my BF?"

I want to know what you look like and where you learned to think cheating was okay?

fabulouslyme · Answer

Eat Pineapple. Its supposed to 'sweeten' your 'taste'. That's what I do, and I haven't had any complaints ;) Quite the opposite actually ;P lol

Mesonfielde · Answer

So basically you started a relationship with that guy and have been cheating on him since with the other. ANYWAYS you should just take a shower or something beforehand.

HeyJustBeingMe · Answer

It isn't the right thing to do in my opinion you know.. if i was that bf of yours and somehow managed to know that you have a friend with benefits that does oral to you aswell while i didn't like it. Id feel betrayed by you and sad. Id probably not forgive you for doing so and break up.. Now i dont know the entire thing but thats as far as my thoughts can go atm.

Ihav2fart · Answer

Why do you have a boyfriend and  friends with benefits  at the same time? Your bigger problem is not that your bf doesn't want to eat you out. Its that you have 2 guys in your life.

rjroy3 · Answer

You should break up with your boyfriend, because you're a liar for saying you'll be exclusive and then going behind his back to cheat.
Or you can break up because you have the friends with benefits as backup until you find a boyfriend that is willing to eat you out. Either way you should break up, because you're not doing yourself and more importantly your boyfriend any favors.

SandPlanet · Answer

Have you told your boyfriend that your  friends with benefits  enjoys eating you out? Maybe that would motivate him.

Manolo954 · Answer

Well umm if you think your bf would be mad about you having a friend with benefits on the side then yeah... that's kinda wrong. If getting your pussy licked is such a big deal than just break up with him. You don't necessarily need to be in a relationship in order to get your sexual or emotional needs fulfilled.

rthomas43 · Answer

Maybe your boyfriend doesn't like eating you out because your vagina has that "nasty slut" taste.

front2back · Answer

I think you should break up with your boyfriend, he doesn't deserve to be cheated on like this.

president97 · Answer

It doesn't matter if you know your  friends with benefits  before your bf, that is cheating. You should've stop that  friends with benefits  thing or dump your bf. You can't have them both. This is not ok.

Creole_Flavor · Answer

You're a virgin and already a slut smh and people say their the ones that are pure, most likely to respect themselves and least likely to have STDs.

MixedTwit · Answer

If u love ur bf stay, but u can't have both, u can't have a friends with benefits with a bf, that's totally wrong, if ur willing to do that to ur bf u obviously don't like him that much so do what is best, if pleasure is that important to u then it's important and do somthing about it

Koldhearted · Answer

this may just be me but if i found out my wife/gf was cheating on me going to prison just may be worth getting a chance to go to her funeral

deepwaterescue · Answer

IF you BF says it tastes nasty next time try getting a blow pop like a cherry flavor one and see if he will use it with you, you and him both should love that, I do make it more fun and something different...

cavmanier · Answer

People just have different sexual preferences. Date the fuck buddy maybe.

Anonymous · Answer

No matter what "your story" might be that we might not understand wrong doesn't come with justification nobody deserves to be cheated on.. so you need to find somebody who can give you satisfaction in both areas since it is obviously important to you.. if you dnt want to leave ur bf because of this than realize there's more to a person's like their heart than your reason for having two guys at 1 time..

turkishdelight · Answer

*sigh*

findingdreamland · Answer

Just date someone whose preferences meet yours. Your bf seems, he doesn't like you at all. Your friends and benefits seems, he isn't ready for relationship. Cut both of them.

jenn556 · Answer

Ur bf is a loser. Yes cheat on him he deserves it. The guys here are all psychopaths who want to bring women down online trash. Any guy that won't go down on a girl is a selfish evil jerk who deserves to be cheated on. Men are scum and deserve to be cheated on.

Anonymous · Answer

this is obviosuly trolling. if you had a  friends with benefits  that eats out asses, he would know that ass never tastes good. if its unclean, it tastes bad. if its clean it doesn't taste at all

mario1321 · Answer

When you eat out with your bf who pays, and when you eat out with your  friends with benefits  who pays?

jollo80 · Answer

You've repeated so many times how you've been cheated on in the past to justify your lack of respect towards your boyfriend even a relationship. In one comment you added that your friends betray you, that just shows what kind of character you have and I actually feel sorry for you. I agree with some saying this post was just a way to get a reaction or a better word would be attention. How about you try learning how to forgive your past and stop punishing the boyfriend for what another man did...

Anonymous · Answer

To be honest... virgin or not, YOU ARE still a slut. It doesn't matter about your shitty excuse of a sob story. Boohoo grow the fuck up and get over it. Being cheated on does not give you the excuse to be unfaithful. If you 'loved' your boyfriend so much you would have never continued your  friends with benefits  relations. Who cares your bf won't eat you out, shit I wouldn't either. What guy wants to eat out of a slut foul another guys spit saliva. It seems to me the only reason you're with your bf is because your friends with benefits doesn't want a relationship. & please don't comment back talking about your "story". I don't give a fuck about your story. You are a whore. Point blank simple. And if your feelings were hurt after reading this, GOOD, that was my intention. I feel no sympathy for you that a lot of these comments are slut shaming you. You deserve it. Have a nice one.

Anonymous · Answer

You need to grow up. Dump the boyfriend and find someone you're emotionally and physically into who will please you. (Or stay with your friends with benefits) but you NEED to break it off with your BF. I don't care what the “story” is. Both of you obviously aren't right for each other so it's better to break it off then suffer through all of this. Do what's right. You'll feel better and be happier and so will your boyfriend.

Anonymous · Answer

You are a virgin but your behaviour is very slutty. I do not think the issue is him not wanting to eat you out I think the issue is you trying to juggle 2 guys at the same time.

Anonymous · Answer

Your bf is an egotistical scumbag. He doesn't deserve you. ANY GUY WHO DOESN'T EAT HIS GF OUT DESERVES TO BE CHEATED ON.

rUinSAYAN · Answer

I'm also confused. did you let both do sexual things to you whilst you were in a relationship?

AintGivingASht · Answer

I think you have what you need girl: a boyfriend and a friend who would serve your need. Just make sure they never meet though. I won't judge since I know how it feels.

nonopink · Answer

you are a virgin and has boyfriend AND friend with benefits? wow. maybe your boyfriend wants "the real sex" than oral sex?

Anonymous · Answer

If he's not willing to eat you out (properly) then he shouldn't get jealous that you get someone else to do it, talk to him and ask him to either go down on you more or for him accept that you need to keep your FWB.

Megalodon · Answer

You probably taste like the other guys dick. That's why.  Fix your shit.

chocolatedragon · Answer

Let's reverse the roles. I couldn't handle a gf who hates giving bjs. I'd probably stick with the  friends with benefits  until the gf got over her sexual hangups.

BEatenyou · Answer

you have a boyfriend and a friend with Benefits? at the same time?

bama_girl89 · Answer

Try eating a low sugar high protein yogurt before bed and I read eating pineapple makes you sweet down there. Something about the enzymes. Take a cranberry vitamin. 👌

Anonymous · Answer

Pick one or the other, or talk to the bf about having an open relationship. If you haven't agreed on an open relationship, it's cheating. Plain and simple.

Anonymous · Answer

Someone find that Turkish guy who keeps posting about how he banged eight different women but still expects - no, DEMANDS a virgin to marry BECAUSE HONOR. Proof positive right here that being a virgin doesn't mean you aren't a slut.

Anonymous · Answer

What about you leave your boyfriend? If you really treasure love more than pleasure, you would not be cheating. Leave him and you can have all the fun you want

Anonymous · Answer

I think you are where you want to be at this point.

Anonymous · Answer

What if your boyfriend truly loves you and would never cheat? He will feel the exact same thing you felt when you got cheated on... just because you got cheated doesn't mean all guys r like that... there r still many guys in this world who don't/won't cheat.

You say you love your boyfriend but if you truly love him you shouldn't cheat... And tell me if you found out that your boyfriend truly loves you a lot then would you still cheat on him?

oliver77 · Answer

may be your bf has some respect towards you and you are something to play with for  friends with benefits

beastman88 · Answer

wow you are certainly a hoe bag

KevinM · Answer

Why are you having sex with someone other than your boyfriend... Pretty sure that's cheating on him

eddzeeman · Answer

You're so fucked up... there's not even an point in reasoning with you

Anonymous · Answer

girl enjoy them both! screw guys!

nickstaa · Answer

Lol you have a  friends with benefits  and a bf?

Seduzione · Answer

Maybe your boyfriend doesn't like the taste of your Fwbs spit.  Just a possibility..

Anonymous · Answer

Lmfao i read all the comments and noticed you repeat the same crap To everyone xD...

Anonymous · Answer

Is it possible to be such a ho? Is this real life?

Octagon · Answer

This has got to be a wind up surely?

jeanbean · Answer

WWWWOOOOOOWWWWW.

Song4TheBroken · Answer

Coz you a hoe, that's why :)

DJclueless · Answer

Maybe cook more if he doesn't like eating out?

Anonymous · Answer

I say have your cake and eat it to.

My boyfriend HATES eating me out while my friend with benefits LOVES it?

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