Should I be worried when my boyfriend is friends with his friends with benefits girl?

[Anonymous]

Is it alright when my boyfriend is close friends to his former friends with benefits girl with whom he writes weekly but has not seen for 8 years? Her boyfriend was against them meeting. Now they just chat about I do not know what. Would you be worried?

[boggboss]

If he has told u this about her then I wouldn't say u should worry as he has let u know if your uncomfortable with it end the relationship I dont see him not talking to her because you are worried

[Guy13]

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Yes, you should be worried.

[Asker]

Why are they still writing when all they shared was just sex? Now he says they are just friends. Can it really just be platonic without hoping that something might happen one point?

[Guy13]

You are looking through lovey dovey 🥰 perspective. No one wants be negative but no. This has 💣💣💣 written all over it.

[OlderAndWiser]

What could possibly go wrong here?

[Asker]

He says they are the last 8 years just friends virtually. It doesn't seem like a weak relationship to me and it makes me jealous they write so much with each other. When they had so great sex they still write with each other I am sure they would habe accidentially sex again if they would meet.. Am I wrong?

[OlderAndWiser]

1. So far, they talk only online? If so, if it is entirely innocent, your boyfriend should invite you to join in the chats. If he doesn't want to do that, then you KNOW you have a problem.

2. Yes, the odds are that if they get together in person, they will be banging.

3. "I am sure they would habe accidentially sex again if they would meet" If they meet again and have sex, it will not be an "accident." It will be quite deliberate and intentional.

[Asker]

Thank you. I hate this so much

[Asker]

Is he keeping her around in case she is single again one point?

[OlderAndWiser]

Probably. And that illustrates his lack of commitment to you. Ask him about joining in on their chat and you'll get your answer.

[Asker]

But it is their private whatzup chat.. and nobody ever is there in this chat..

[OlderAndWiser]

You can sit beside him and watch the conversation. Or ask him to satisfy your curiosity by letting you read their past conversations.

[Asker]

But then I am the crazy jealous person?

[OlderAndWiser]

No, you are no crazy jealous if he wants to maintain a relationship with a former sexual partner and keeps the details hidden from you. That label gets thrown out as a way for people to manipulate you into leaving them alone.

[In_Trance]

aren't you too old for this crap?