Should I tell her how I feel or is it too late?

[Anonymous]

here's the situation..this girl I was talking to really liked me and she told me this a few times..but I wasn't really ready for something serious at the time but really enjoyed talking to her and what not and had a lot of fun with her but I never really opened up to her.. all I did was tell her that I wasn't really ready for something serious..

that being said we still continued to talk up until a few days ago for whatever reason communication stopped..and now that it stopped I realize that I really did like her more than I thought..i've tried to get in contact with her since but nothing has happened no returned messages and I really want to tell her how I feel..is it too late or should I keep trying to get in contact?

[onemoreplease]

Ooof. Are you sure you really want something real with her, or are you just feeling the loss of her undivided interest and attention? It's definitely easy to confuse the two. I'm not sure if I understand you correctly, but it sounds like you changed your mind and became ready for a serious relationship in a few days, which is not really possible. First of all, make sure you really want to offer her what she wants! She put herself out there, and if you really care about her you won't string her along anymore than that.

Then if you decide you really do want to go further, just contact her again! Ask her to meet you somewhere where you can both be alone but relaxed. Let the conversation flow naturally, maybe talk about other things you usually talk about, then go for it and tell her you've been thinking about her a lot and your feelings for her have grown. It's your turn to put yourself out there and tell her you'd like to pursue something more. Good luck!

[Asker]

Well I guess I was hoping to just take things slow and see how they went (hoping that they might actually lead into something else) because I liked her a lot but at the same time afraid to tell her how I felt..but I don't want to come off as too needy by contacting her all the time..any suggestions? I know I'd feel a lot better if I could just tell her but I obviously can't if I can't reach her..

[onemoreplease]

Well I definitely think it's not too late. Why can't you reach her? She's not going to think you're needy because you contact her. If she likes you she will be excited to hear from you. I say find a way to reach her and tell her! At the very worst you won't wonder what could have been.

[Asker]

For whatever reason she won't return any of my messages or phone calls..i didn't say to offend her I was nothing but respectful towards her I think I deserve some sort of explanation..all I want to know is what happened that's not asking a lot...do I keep trying or just accept the fact that I may never know...?

[onemoreplease]

Hmmm. If you didn't do anything wrong, don't worry about it, since it's impossible to guess the real reason behind her nonresponsiveness. Now that I know you have tried calling her, I think it might be wise to wait it out, as you can't force her to talk to you. It is much more likely that she will get back to you eventually than that you will never hear from her again. And even if she doesn't, you seem like a sweet guy so don't let it bring you down.

[SunsetToMe]

Sometimes you don't know what you have until it is gone. I'd say go for it. You don't really have anything to lose... and who knows... something really good could come of it! If you don't go for it, wouldn't you always be wondering "what if?"? That is the absolute worst thing to wonder. I don't think it is ever too late.

Good luck!

[toxicgal]

i think you should just go for it ...i am going through the same situation as you except with my bestfriend and trust me it hurts a lot and that is the reason why that girl stopped contacting you because it just hurts a lot and you can't keep pretending that everything is totally fine. Just ditch the ego and contact her!

[Asker]

I've been trying to contact her but nothing happens out of it..i've called her 2 times, left 2 text messages within the past 5 days which I don't think is that much, but still nothing no replies or anything..i don't know what else to do to reach her.. and I'm starting to think its too late...

[BreLaSann]

If she really likes you then I'd say keep trying. Maybe she just thought since you didn't want anything serious she should back off to make things easier for herself since she has feelings for you. I'd say go for it.