Should I just gave up and be more realistic :(?

[Anonymous]

So, I've had a crush on this guy since college. It's been a year since I graduated, and I don't run into him much, but I know he hangs out at this specific library because every time I go there, he's there too. The thing is, he doesn't even know my name. I really like him, but I'm not sure what to do. We've had so many moments where we could have connected, but he never really made a move or seemed interested. I feel like he had plenty of chances to talk to me if he wanted to. That's why I'm a bit scared and don't think I'll ever make the first move.

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Also I know his Instagram account because my friend shared it with me, but I feel kinda awkward just following him out of the blue. What if he asks how I found it (since it's not his real name) or what if he's already in a relationship?

[TommyMountainFigure]

For starters you could add him to Instagram and say:-

Hi, I bumped into (the friend who gave you his id) we got talking about you, and I hope you don't mind but I asked for your ID and he gave it to me, because i thought it would be nice to keep in touch..

So.. how have you been? What have you been up to?

[Asker]

I think i’ll thank you

[TommyMountainFigure]

It just seems the logical and friendly way of getting to know him properly, without it having to be creepy. Ya know?

[exitseven]

When I was in college there was a girl that I liked. I had no idea what her name was but we always smiled and said hi to each other. One night she was studying and when she got out of her study Carrell to find a book I left a note on her books asking her to meet me at the student union at 10PM. I figured that if she did not show up I would have to find another place to study. She actually did show up and we dated for a while.

[exitseven]

Thanks for the MHO😎

[sheikalana]

Move on. If he had any interest in you he would've approached you since you guys see each other regularly.

[DishLady]

Sweetie, don’t stalk the guy. Move on.

[Asker]

Define stalking

[DarkLegacy]

Good answer

[Awesomesauce2005]

Women dont stalk men, they hunt them lol

[HighValue]

Just ask him out in person. The worst he would do is say no or that he is already in a relationship. Guys aren't nearly as mean as women when turning someone down.

[DarkLegacy]

He is not interested to be honest. And yes you should be more realistic but then again so should all women. And if is in a relationship then that is the end of it.

[Asker]

Of course that will be the end of it, I don't know if he actually in a relationship or not i was just making assumptions, thanks tho

[9in_Serpent]

Go for it sweetheart you will regret letting the moment pass you by and knowing you never did anything which much worse than any rejection

[Asker]

I think you’re right, thank you

[9in_Serpent]

Good luck! :)

[handsomelad70]

Maybe YOU should make they first move without scaring him off ( perhaps he's shy and would flee if he thought you were pressuring him to be your boyfriend), and if he still doesn't seem interested, well, there are lots of lads out there.

[Makeushiver]

Ask him out when you see him again. If he says yes than score one for you. If no, you don't run into so much that it would be an issue

[RingOfFire]

Sometimes you just have to move on. If it is meant to be it happens. If not it doesn't. This one is in the doesn't column.

[Twalli]

If you never make the FBI move then nothing will happen. It doesn't have to be romantic or sexual. Introduce yourself and mention that you see him there often and wanted to get to know him better.

[MrExperienced]

Be direct with people and make your intentions clear. If you like someone then tell them.

[gorydetails]

Grow a pair of ovaries and go introduce yourself to him.

[Aiko_E_Lara]

Why does he have to make the first move? Do it or never have conclusions.

[Asker]

I don't know honestly, i think I’m scared of rejection

[SotiCoto]

Yes. Be more realistic.