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Every time I'm upset my husband gets irritated at me. To the point, we end up fighting a lot. Here's an example:
My dog has stomach issues. My mother in law feeds him both people food and cat food. Our vet spoke to her the last time we had to go in for an emergency visit. He told her to stop immediately that she was making our dog very ill. So when she kept doing it I got angry. My husband confronted his mom and she claimed that the vet didn't say anything about either people food or cat food. So my husband comes back to me and says unless you have proof that the vet talked to my mom we have to give her the benefit of the doubt. For complete disclosure, my husband eventually believed me, but only after four emergency vet visits, a diagnosis of pancreatitis, and him telling her to stop and she continued to feed him incorrectly anyway. He does things like that all the time. If I get a date wrong, use the wrong word, cry because I'm angry or upset if someone else remembers differently he will start telling me to think logically. To not let my emotions get in the way of a rational discussion. I don't know how to get him to accept my right to express feelings. That I have the right to raise my voice sometimes.
I don't understand why he won't believe me or back me up. I he frustrated and angry when he dismissed everything I say because I made a mistake with a detail.

How do get him to see the big picture?

Am I just approaching him wrong?

He has me feeling like I really am losing my mind and I know I'm not.

Is there a way to fix this?

Am I expecting too much?

Is it wrong to want him and expect him to give my thoughts on a situation weight because I'm his wife?

I told him I want to be copilots of our destinies, and he said that he has a responsibility to stay impartial and make rational fair judgments. Is this gaslighting b. s. or does he have a point?

Thank you, everyone, for your help.

I am putting a poll up at my BFF's urging.