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Me and my boyfriend have been together 5 months, the relationship has gone pretty stale and I am no longer happy. However I can't bring myself to leave because I'm still in love and would miss him, and I couldn't bare to see him move on with someone else which I know he'd do straight away. This is a very frustrating situation for me as I'm unhappy with him and unhappy without, if I left I know I'd probably end up even more miserable.
The way I see it there's a few options-
One, Suck it up and just end things. It will be very painful but maybe I just need to get it over with so I can start healing?
Two, stay with him and tough it out. Put up with the relationship a bit longer, see if it gets better or worse.
And then there's another... When I'm not happy with him but will be lonely if I leave, perhaps I could 'emotionally cheat'? That is, go and find someone else, and once I have, end things and move on with them. This will make breaking up a lot easier as I'll have someone to move on with and won't be as lonely. A lot of you will say that's wrong and unfair, and I would've thought the same not long ago, but a difficult situation brings difficult choices. He is the one who sabotaged our relationship, made me paranoid, and put us into this situation, so I'm afraid I've lost some sympathy for him. It's not my fault he did those things and led me to have to make this decision.
Or maybe there's another option you've though if that I haven't? If so, please let me know.

1. When a guy ask me out I assume he wants more
2. I get defensive quick, my first thought is cheating, failure or abandonment
3. I can talk openly and have deep conversation, but if a guy shows interest in a romantic way I freeze and run away I avoid conversation about it
4. Too scared to be sexual, cause I caught feelings for my friends with benefits and he didn’t want me in a romantic way (I am celibate because of it. Have been for years).
5. I am loving, witty, caring and open.
6. I love dates, but I don’t want to date I just want the guy I am supposed to be with sent from the heavens. And not do the work behind finding “the one”.
7. I can be unavailable emotionally and cold
8. Don’t like PDA or getting physical with anyone.
I love being single, love my freedom but I get lonely more often than I can count on two hands. And everyone around me are in love (friends and family). I am happy for them but I often look at my hopeless situation.
7. I feel bitterness towards men
8. I haven’t had the best experience with men. I have been sexually harassed/raped, my dad cheats on my mom all the time since I was a little girl, my first boyfriend left me for someone else, was in a abusing situation and my friends with benefits hurt my feelings.
9. Reading and hearing about men doing women wrong makes me explode even more, especially dating today and how gross we treat each other.

I am ready to shake it all off and start trusting again. I have been single for four years. I can’t keep up with this sad love life. I have used my free time on myself and I have found my passion (self discovery). I am not ready to fully commitment yet even if I miss the intimacy the most (I am still young, and enjoying life), but I am done being mad at men. They deserve better and so does my soul.

Advice?