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I had a coworker who was pretty reserved but very cute to me. It took us a while to start texting due to us both being somewhat shy, but once we did, he really started opening up to me. He would tell me all about his day, share his weird insightful theories with me, and even tell me things about him that I'm sure only this close friends knew. We were really close and I felt so accomplished for gaining his trust and friendship.
He even texted me nonstop one night to where he didn't get any sleep for school the next day, mentioning that he would "rather talk to me than fall asleep":).
However, a day or 2 after that night, he suddenly stopped. He wouldn't reply to any of my texts and I eventually stopped because I didn't want to seem like the idiot who couldn't take a hint. :/ we even stopped talking to each other at work unless it was work related. This went on for months until he eventually quit for another job. Months after he quit, he came back to visit his old job and saw me there and talked to me like we were friends again. He even texted me about a week later, but every time he texts me, it only lasts maybe half a day and I'm always the last one to send a text. He's always nice and seems to want to talk when we text, but he never really keeps it going. Is he just really shy and maybe got scared from his feelings for me? Or was he just suddenly not interested?

I'm in a relationship with this guy, he's not my official boyfriend, but he would like to be. We don't want to put a label on it until we aren't long distance any more, which may or may not happen in the future. I realize that LDRs are hard, and though I do love him, I distance myself a bit and try to rationalize things so that if something happens I won't be too heartbroken. I don't allow myself to have control over him (I don't tell him: don't drink, don't smoke, don't text her, etc) because I realize that he has his own life to live and does love me.

So anyways, there's this girl that he and his roommates have been friends with for about 3 months. She used to like his roommate. I've talked to her on the phone before & she seems nice enough, but based on her previous drama with his roommate, she seems like a slut, dramatic, in need of attention, and very comfortable in their apartment. My guy doesn't like her romantically, I'm not sure if that works both ways.

So, this guy tells me that he & this girl got a cat together. It will work out like this: She pays $300 for his apartment fee of having pets because she can't keep it at the college dorms and will probably get to visit it and stuff whenever she wants. It will be "his" cat though because he is caring for it, feeding it, naming it, and keeping it at his place.

To me, this seems plain weird. You don't just get a pet with someone you've barely know, right? I can understand a best friend, a roommate, but a recent friend? Sounds like a disaster waiting to happen. I also don't see what she really has to gain from this situation, she basically just bought him a cat she can play with whenever she wants. He's letting her because he really wanted a cat. I trust him, not sure about her.

I don't really need advice on what to do, it's his life and things will happen as they do. Please tell me how you feel about this situation!

Thank you :)