Search Results: in the time of the butterflies

It's no denying that the millennial generation tend to have an attitude of not wanting to work hard and everything must be immediate and easy to obtain. And this type of attitude tends to translate over into dating where people want that spark/click/chemistry immediately and attraction for the person right off the bat and become totally lovey dovey feeling for that person within a couple weeks to 1 month of knowing them.
And it's not surprising that people tend to jump into bed with this kind of mindset by the 3-4th date.
However, i cam across some comments by male gagers about building a relationship on this i'd like to share:

"relationship built on attraction. its shallow. love comes latter after you get to know a person. however infatuation can leave you blind to lots of things. id rather be with a women that i respect and fall in love later than to be with a women who gives me butterflies just to find out she's a shit person."

And this was true in old times. Many couples that lasted much longer than today both parties won't head over heels with each other on first meeting but learned to love and respect each other.

" Waste majority of times a man and a woman will meet and then build up a relationship from nothing. Sometimes you may even have the feeling that you would have to force yourself to like them. But love made from ground up is more stronger than something that came from a "spark."
By definition, a spark is something that goes out very quickly anyway."

"Well that spark sometimes happens later, some times its not a spark so much as a click (ie your indifferent and then suddenly your not)"

It does seem however, women are more culpable to end a relationship with a guy who is good on paper and has everything she is looking for her in a partner because he did not give her butterflies right off the bat.


Do you think this whole spark thing ruins the chance of having stable relationship?