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Around March, 2015, I had a first date with Susan. Unfortunately, she had a family emergency a few days later and she went out of town for several weeks. In the meanwhile, I started dating someone else, I thought they would be a good match for me, and when Susan returned, I truthfully explained what had happened and I told her that I wanted to date the other girl exclusively. In retrospect, it was a bad decision.

I recently saw Susan on POF, started messaging her, and she was receptive to the idea of meeting for dinner. Our first date happens to be on Valentine's Day! (I recently posted another question about how to handle a first date on Valentine's Day.) Every good woman should receive flowers on Valentine's Day, so this is what I will give her:

It feels a bit peculiar seeing her a second time five years after the first date, but my memories of her are all good and I am excited about seeing her again. I should have ditched the other girl and kept dating Susan in 2015, but that's another story!

What's the longest gap you have had between a first and second date?

Back in the beginning of 2015, I was suicidal because I couldn't find another virgin to lose my virginity to. I was overdosing on my meds and kept going in and out of hospitals.

I was on this dating platform, OKCupid, and this girl messaged me. She contacted me first and I started talking to her. I explained my situation and she didn't believe me. She then avoided me.

I ended up being hospitalized again for a suicide attempt. After I was released, I messaged her and sent her a picture of my hospital wristband as proof that I was hospitalized. She then believed me and we started messaging again.

Come to find out she was 16. I was 20 at the time, but looking at the state laws in the state she resided, she was of legal age for sex.

We started talking more and more and even snapchatted. After a few months, we agreed to meet up. She was hesitant at first but she decided to go through with it.

I drove 7 hours all the way to her state to meet her. We walked the mall, had an ice cream, then we went to the hotel and we took each other's virginities. I even still have the pictures of the blood stained sheets when I popped her cherry.

The day after, we spent the entire day at the amusement park. I fell in love with her I thought. It was all affection and holding hands and kissing. I thought I found my first girlfriend. Later before we departed, she told me she did not want anything serious it shattered my heart.

I stopped talking to her for two weeks. Then I messaged her again and she said she was glad I contacted her and she had locked herself in her room crying at one point.

We started talking again, and at one point she told me I was the best guy she ever met. Although she led me on a little, she said she did not want a relationship. I was crushed.

Later, I started to question if she really was a virgin and even called her up crying. She reassured me I was her first.

Eventually I made her mad and she told me to never talk to her again.