They treat you like that because you don't treat yourself with higher respect. You have to care about your virginity because they think you are a hypocrite for saying you don't care about your virginity but you don't want casual sex. In fact, it is not about casual sex. But the fact you have never been with any guy period. That sends a red flag like your not interested in sex. They see your pretty face, body, etc. That's what's attracting them and your personality. Your standards are what's driving them away. They would rather take somebody like me seriously who is a virgin, never dated AND believes in waiting for marriage to have sex, then somebody like you who could have had sex, and still didn't YET you had not 1 boyfriend. They assume you don't really know what you want and just dating any guy who pays attention to you.
That's why you wait for marriage to have sex. Because they want sex no matter how they got to get it. Plus at the same time, his main focus is sex for himself. He never cared about you. Thank God you had those talks. That's why you don't date, you befriend them and get to know them. You got to know who he really is. Don't try to keep him. He is a red flag. Block him, delete his info, and don't worry about guys like that. Care about your virginity. Care of YOU. Save that for somebody more worthy, NOT a boyfriend. Boyfriends come and go and will treat you the same too. If you god forbid marry the wrong one they also do the same. Take your time and be comfortable in yourself. You're worth it. Don't settle for losers.
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This is hard but either your virginity is important or it isn't. If you want normal fuck boy kind of men then just fuck a rando and lose it already.
BUT dont cry and complain when fuck boy dudes dont want to marry you because they won't.
OR your virginity is important, men who are the kind who focus on being a family man with morals and who are trustworthy and responsible will love that you are a virgin but it sounds like you dont like those men.
The only thing is if you push them off now by sleeping around they will never come back to bark up your tree later.
Id think long and hard about what i just said. If your future is an open relationship with a man who plays video games all day and smokes pot who will leave you a single mom eventually and you want him to accept you having purple hair and being fat and nagging him to give you children you want. Then by all means you should spread your legs asap to help attract those men.
If you're future is a man who marries you and is a good husband and father who cares about making you feel safe and wants a family eventually then dear God please realize your virginity is very important.
The choice is yours. Good luck
Have patience. It's not the end of the world. There are lots of guys who would like to date you and don't give shit about you virginity or lack of experience. It's just a one bad experience. Have faith.
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That's weird. I guess he was probably looking for something more casual than serious. That's how online dating tends to go from what I've heard from girls.
"Are people really so turned off by lack of experience?"
I personally think it makes a girl more attractive / appealing.
A lot of people are not serious. Many guys are talking to multiple girls which they may drop along the way. It can take awhile to find the right person. You just have to keep trying. I recommend looking for someone with similar values. There are serious people out there.
I never did online dating so I can't relate to that, but I did go to clubs. I think they tend to be fairly similar. Girls at clubs mostly want to kiss / make out / and some want more. They didn't seem serious so I wouldn't look for a girlfriend there. A better place to meet men besides online would help a lot. You are looking at a place where men mostly want to play and have fun.I doubt it is anything you have done wrong. Dating in modern society has really gone downhill. Not sure why he bailed, but you should not sweat it since no gentlemen would ever do that to a girl anyway. I consider a girl being a virgin a major plus, so much so that I will not date a girl that is not. Where do you keep meeting these guys?
seems like they only care about sex. Not really someone you should care about losing really should you. He probably just didn’t want to take the time and it turned him off or something. You could try befriending a popular slutty type (as long as they are nice) on the hopes of they could hook you up with their friends. Or the nice fat girl type who is popular and do the same. That could help.
Still a virgin here girl, don’t worry about him take it as a compliment that he didn’t want to be the guy to “ruin” you for lack of other words. You’ll find a good guy one of these days , meanwhile if you know any good girls in North Carolina, don’t hesitate to send them my way. 😃 have a goodnight
No dont think like that. Nothing is wrong with you. Just wait for a guy who is interested in you. Guys from my generation liked virgins, I can't speak for the younger guys but I don't think that's what it is
If he was asking for relationship but ends up doing this then he was only into you for s*x don't take this on your heart his loss
It is better to be with someone who cares for you let it go think of it as your gain and their loss be happy😊I am 21 years old and virgin as well. I have never dated or been in a relationship either. If i lived close to you i would probbably like to date you. The fact that you are a virgin makes you perfect. I would only date virgin girls. I dont want to have anything with girls that are not virgin.
Wow, that would have been the jackpot for me, but I guess he just wasn't looking for anything that wasn't casual.
Is it possible he assumed you were not going to lose your virginity until marriage? I can't think of any other reason.
I’m sorry that happened, dating is difficult and hope you find someone you get along with
He is going for hookups and probably intuitively picked up that you would probably want something long term so being the child that he is he decided to ease his way out of it instead of telling you his intentions
taking a girl's virginity is a pretty big deal. You should probably just keep that info to yourself in the future.
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