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We got into a bad argument a couple months ago after a weird period of us being really distant from each other, and he admitted to being so frustrated he thought about hitting up other girls, but never did. And since then he's been talking to this girl he knows 24/7. I'm not exaggerating when I say there is a notification that she messaged him every time I get a glimpse of his phone. But whenever I told him about how uncomfortable it made me he told me I was being selfish and paranoid and that she needed help because she's struggling with all these different problems and so on, and would continue texting her constantly. I had kept noticing the past two months or so, whenever he'd hand me his phone for whatever reason he'd always delete their DMs before handing it to me. And last night I had finally had enough of that and called him out. I was more mad that he thought I was actually stupid enough not to notice him do that so often then I was about him talking to her. And he kept listing excuse after excuse and kept saying he wasn't lying since they weren't doing anything and I have no reason to be mad and blah blah blah. But he is STILL talking to this chick non stop. And it really bothers me that he uses him knowing her from school (for less of a time than I knew him) as an excuse and will completely ignore my discomfort. I understand he's gonna have female friends and talk to them, I have male friends. But I don't understand why I'm in the wrong for being uncomfortable with him repeatedly crossing the boundaries of my comfort. He claims I'm violating his free will but I'm not asking him to drop communication entirely. I just want him to be mindful of how I feel and take that into consideration before going out of his way to start a conversation every day.

When my boyfriend and I started dating I asked him how many girlfriends he had before me. His answer was 1. Later I found out there was someone else. When I asked him how many girls he kissed he told me 5. I feel that its important to know your partners past because that way no one can say shit to you that you dont already know. 2days ago I found out he had so many more gfs and claimed yo not remember any of them which is bullshit. He responded by asking if I remembered every boyfriend or all the people I kissed.. which I do actually. He got more upset for me and said any person would think I am overreacting. But he never ever wants to speak about them or anyone in his past and when he does it is ow clear that he lied/lies about them. DO I HAVE A RIGHT TO FEEL HURT HERE? I dont even believe him about how many women he has slept with either. So how can I trust him when he has been lying to me for 8 years. He says everything before me doesn't matter.. but to me it does. WHAT DOÈS ALL OF THIS SAY ABOUT HIM. CAN SOMEONE PLEASE HELP ME...