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I'm not sure how to put all of this on here.

I'm just graduated from college and JUST got my first job. Living at home has been SO rough.. not to mention I think my mom has a problem.

I'll be moving out soon... thank goodness. I just wish we could have a good relationship.

In regards to her eating issues. She likes to look at my plate and tries to make sure she is eating less than me. She starves herself throughout the day and binges at dinner. She complains about losing weight and says she never has an appetite. I told her I was here for her if she wanted to talk and she told me that she's just under stress from Christmas... she's been "stressed" about something for the last 3 years. The other day she had a hard boiled egg for breakfast, 1/2 of an English muffin with cheese for lunch and then ate a few bites of the inside of a potato, ate some red meat and two bites of her salad for dinner. I'm so convinced she has an eating disorder. It has been awful to watch. She cuts her food into tiny pieces, she looks at what I am eating, she looks at her food and says "oh there is no way I can eat all that!"

She's very manipulative too. She'll look at my food and tell me there is no way she can eat that much. She takes bites and then pushes her food around like no one notices. Or she hold it on her fork and pretend like she's listening when you're talking... or she'll drink more wine.

She drinks A LOT of wine. I think she goes to bed practically drunk every night. At least in my opinion. She starts at 5 pm every day and has had at least one or 2 by dinner at 7. Then she drinks 1-2 per hour til 11 pm. drinking problem? I think so!

As for me. I am almost 24 years old and thank god I will be moving out soon. I wanted to stay here to save money, but I really just... think that would be bad. Tonight was my hospital department's party. My dad works in the same department and isn't going because we have to work tomorrow. She refused to let me go because it was "far" and it is "dark" out. It's 25 min away on the freeway and like 3 turns off of the freeway too! I looked it up. She loves to control me and my life. People at work were horrified when I said my mom was upset because I wanted to go to my own party! I should have gone.

I truly think she is manipulative and abusive though. Luckily, I can see it. Tonight she asked my dad at the table why my dad always defends me and why I never fight with my dad. I said he didn't elicit these types of problems with me. Tonight, he said he wasn't thrilled about me driving there alone and said not to drink and drive... that was the end of the discussion? my mom? she had to badger me over and over again about how she's been and how it isn't that great and that I'm wasting my time.

I kind of feel abused at this point. I'm almost 24, I pay my own gas, I buy my own groceries when there aren't things here to eat. I don't have a car payment anymore. I feel trapped in my house. Now she's telling me I can't move out right away. Help?