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I've been with my boyfriend 9 months. He's sweet, laid back and does everything in his power to make me happy. But I feel like the most shallow person right now... Because I'm just not feeling it between us.
And to be honest, I obsessed over him the first 5 months because of how amazing our sex was.
but his kisses are always sloppy and just... Makes me want to push him away from me. Sometimes I do. And the more I focus on it,. I just can't think of having sex with him anymore.
i kept pushing for him and I to really be something together, I kept thinking that I'm not going to be that girl that breaks the nice guys heart and that I'm going to stand by my man through it all...
I kept asking him to be my work out buddy but he never follows through... And though he is emotionally there with me, I feel like we don't match physically. (Even though the sex was/is great) I just can't push myself to have sex with him if not everything is good in my head...
Lateky he tells me he loves me and I mumble it back pretending that I'm messing around... I do love him but not in the way I think I should.
i feel like he's lazy and since I'm the type of girl that makes her boyfriend her whole life. I just don't think he fits. I have gained so much weight with him... I have tried to lose weight and get healthy on my own while still being his girlfriend but it must be a mental thing for me... It's bringing me down and I don't know how to adjust my way of thinking..
i keep thinking that I want an active go get em kind of guy... That's still keeps to himself. Maybe I'm asking for too much?
I think our needs our different and he tries so hard but I don't know what's worst.,. Telling him his best isn't good enough or never being completely satisfied with him for the rest of my life...
my morals tell me to remain loyal and stand by him... But my desires tell me at this age of (20) I need to find myself first before I promise my

Pretend you just lost weight and got plastic sugrey to look like her.


And...

Ok so let's say you looked like the girl on top. but a very nice hard working person. And this dude was always rude to you, always mean to you. Told you to kill yourself and you look disgusting and he didn't understand why anyone liked you. Pushed you into lockers, spit on your shoes and laughed.

Then one day you lose a ton of weight and get plastic surgery. And he's buying you stuff, being nice, saying your cute and asks you. Hey! Let's be friends! But he was rude to you, ignored you when you were overweight? Now that he wants to be your friend would you? ( he sees your a hard worker and a good peson) the same person you were when overweight! But h didn't see that until he started to look you up online.

Ok when I was in 8th grade I was bullied. I was overweight and had crocked teeth. It would typically take me a few weeks to make friends and I was called ugly and weird all the time. I had no friends. And I made friends with a girl who didn't have lots of friends and people told her she was ugly. ( this is what guys would tell her) she had friends and was seen as better looking and smarter then me. (This is what people would tell her.) when she first befriended me people would always tell her I was the ugly weird retarded one. And after that she decided to befriend me, she was the sweetest person ever to me and the only person who was nice to me at school. She took me everywhere with her. even though it was always her getting all the attention and paise she was always nice to me when I was bullied or having a hard time. We were like sisters and best friehds. Until one day there was a new guy in class wanted to text me. She looked a bit angry and confused. Then I finally started to understand the work at school. ( she'd usually make D's or F's and I was a A B. student, when I was failing student she was nice to me. But now that in was making better grades then her and guys started to show interest in me she became a jerk to me. A horrible person. When I lost weight and became more popular she tried to get people to stop talking to me and gave me the cold shoulder. She even bullied me. and said I always stole all the attention/ friends and guys. The better life got for me the worst she treated me.

Same thing happened with this guy, he got mad at me and tried to get others to stop watching my videos or becoming a voice actor for me because It made him angry. ( he's a video maker also) He knew I was doing really well so why try to rain on my parade?
This happen to you?