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My boyfriend has told me many lies throughout our 2+ year relationship. These lies usually are all about things that happened before we were together, or the couple of times we broke up for a week or so in college. These incidents can be anything from as stupid to one time he was at his fraternity house and strippers showed up and he saw her give a guy a lap dance and told me he never saw them... to him hooking up with a girl while we were broken up... and sleeping with some girl before we ever even got together (I get my partners sexual past really isn't any of my business).

I guess my question is... do you think this is a life long issue, or are most guys going to maybe.. leave out a girl they slept with previously to the relationship and the things they did while being BROKEN UP.

My boyfriend the last 10 months has gone through some type of "revelation" where he sees that I am the one for him and this isn't just some stupid college relationship. He sees a future with me, he wants to start brand new with me, focus on us, and he has proven to change dramatically... so he decided to come forward and tell me things he had lied about in the past. He said that he didn't care enough before and all of the things happened when we were broken up or before we even got together (minus the stupid stripper thing) and he was scared to lose me over such stupid mistakes he had made... I guess I can overreact sometimes I am quite dramatic but I still have always kept it 100% honest with him.

What do you guys think? Do you think this is just a stage? Or do you think he is going to be a liar for the rest of his life? (BTW the things he lied about, I did ask him multiple times and he would deny) until recently when he wanted to just come clean, start over, and has had enough time the last 10 months to prove to me he's different (which he has TREMENDOUSLY).

Opinions?

My cousin's husband (31 years old) had been flirting with me, saying things like 'I miss you', 'I love you, darling', 'I have so much attachment with you'... So, I had blocked him but he somehow got my number and asked me the reason behind blocking.
I: I had blocked you because you were flirting with me and I didn't want to make you cheat on your wife.
He: You are right. But I won't cheat on her. She knows me very well. You would die to love me, you would die to get f***ed by me. You won't find anyone like me. By the way, you shouldn't tell her that I talk to you.
Me: Oh, you are scared huh?
He: I am not. She would doubt on me.
Me: Of course, she has a right to know that her husband can be unfaithful to her. Flirting with someone else while being in a relationship or marriage is cheating. You don't know?
He: Having sex is cheating, everything else has no value. Think broad, you won't be happy in your marriage. You have grown up in a conservative family, that's why your mentality is like this.
Me: I would be happy in staying extremely loyal to him, my guy, to be honest!!
He: U would, but he wouldn't be happy with you. All people have done everything before marriage now a days. I have done everything before marriage.
Me: Not all people, and cheating is cheating in every format!
He: Whatever you say. I was angry on you because you weren't talking to me... Anyway, no worries. Going to bed, good nighty darling! 😉

I don't think he would think this broad if his wife was flirting around behind his back. I will certainly tell my cousin about this.

I'm really communicative so I say whatever I need to say. That also applies to dating. I've been seeing this guy for like a month and right on our first date I told him I wanted to kiss him so we did. Second date we were making out in his car and I told him I liked it when my hair was pulled, so he did it. When we had problems I'd always straight up tell him my honest thoughts about it and he was really intrigued by this aspect of my personality, but I still don't know if he finds that good or unsettling.

Would me being so honest about my thoughts and wishes scare you off?