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I am talking to this guy I met from OKC for around 2 weeks. Before we met in person, we FaceTimed and spoke on the phone for hours. When we met in person, we went on a date to a fine dining location and we discussed prior to meeting up to possibly go play video games at his pad. I say pad because he is a truck driver that recently moved from another location and is still residing in the truck. The inside looks like a tiny room. After the date, we went to this truck and relaxed. He asked to kiss me.

We ended up making out and it got pretty hot (in my opinion at least). He is not a virgin and I still am. I am not necessarily saying that I am going to wait until marriage but I wanted to know worst case scenario if he would. And he said no because he believes a partner should have sex before marriage to confirm there is a legitimate intimacy connection.

He told his mom about me and I asked him when he was going to delete his OKC profile during the date because he seemed to like me. And we both deleted our profiles together.

We hung out the next day because it was New Year’s Eve. I asked 1st because I thought he would want to do something. If I was okay relaxing, he was okay with me coming over and playing video games again.

That turned into second base for me and he wanted to go down on me but I wasn’t ready. Anytime I said stop depending on my mood or feeling, he listens and we talk. He drove over an hr to see me for the first date and said he is willing to take 2 days off a week to spend time together. He also invited me to go on a cruise with him for his birthday because he has a time share.

He says he only believes in titles when it comes time to address a woman to other people. But he said he does consider me his girlfriend because he is only seeing me and we are intimate. But he said if the title is too soon for me, there is no rush. There is no rush for sex either. Am I being played? He says I have nothing to worry about but I don’t trust men 😶.

The other night I had the best first date. So we matched on a dating app and happened to have mutual friends. On the app he would reach out and take around 24 hours before responding to me each time so it took around 3 days to set up a date even though he asked me on his initial message. He picked me up and we immediately clicked. We went to the bar to grab a drink and quite quickly he tells me at his age he is ready for something serious so he isn’t interested in casually dating. Then he starts hitting me with some tense questions. When was your last relationship? How long was it? How many relationships have you had and so on? He seemed pretty bothered that I the longest I have been single in the last year at any point is currently at 4 months. I explained when I leave a relationship it was dead before I don’t walk away until I know for sure there is no way it will work therefore I move on rather easily and I happen to meet people rather quickly. After my last relationship which was all crazy I needed a break to figure out what I truly am looking for and have only recently began dating again. We openly admitted how we both thought about canceling the date, but he kept saying he was so excited we didn’t. I play a lot of volleyball and he kept mentioning we need to play sometime. 3 1/2 hours later he takes me home. We talk another 30 min while being parked in the middle of the road. I get out and we end up making out in the road with cars going around us as we laugh because it feels like a movie. I invite him in and he politely turns me down and he reminds me he won’t be back from vacation for a week and a half. Says he is excited to see me when he gets back and that it is really hard for him to walk away from me. During the date he pulled his phone out once to set it down next to me while he went to the bathroom. So I didn’t hear from him yesterday. At what point do I assume he isn’t interested? Originally he said he would call me to set up the first date.