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I've been in only one relationship before... And it ended pretty horribly so I must not know how to be a proper girlfriend yet. But anyways, this is my story so far.

Me and this guy got together on discord after meeting each other for a few days... I don't know why but I guess we really hit it off. He was the one to be shy whenever we met and friended each other. He came to the group chat I was on because he liked another girl which is my online bestfriend. I ain't going to say names because I don't know who's reading this...

So, anyways. Me and my friend did a reverse tug of war around him because we both cared so much about each other and how the other was feeling. And everytime I texted him... I just felt guilty until something happened. He thought my friend was married, so he asked me if I wanted to be his girlfriend. I responded with a yes...

The thing was that I couldn't manage to text him... Being way too shy. That's just how I am in a relationship for the first part. And he told me he was upset one time... But it was pretty vague so I had to keep trying to pick up on what he'd said.

That was until soon I told my other online friend who'm I trusted his word ever since the first time, he was gay. And I know people of all sexualities so I ain't meaning anything against it! Many gay people that I know are always so happy and fun to be around. So I didn't feel guilty going to him because I knew that he only cared about me as a friend.

And that's where I got my confidence to speak to my partner about all of this and apologize... And I do apologize a lot. Especially online because the first time you meet me is actually how I really am. I'm way too submissive and happy and... Caring also clingy. But it doesn't seem like he's going to open up... I've searched up so many things on how to help my boyfriend feel happy and all the stuff I could think about for dating. He seems to still like my Bestfriend which I still ship. What did I do wrong? Please tell me...

I believe that all humans can feel both masculinity and femininity. I also believe %100 of humans no matter the gender actually do experience these feelings and also we all know how it feels to be attracted to feminity and masculinity. isn't it reasonable to say that if you're a male when you feel attraction towards masculinity you're not being gay but you're just learning the emotional spectrum of feelings we are hardwired to feel naturally? Being able to understand and experience the human emotional spectrum just comes with the territory of being a human. So why can't males simply accept that they know what attractions towards another males feels like? When all males inevitably feel this attraction towards the same sex they commonly react towards the naturalness of this emotional learning and growth by telling themselves negative reactions and incredibly harmful thoughts such as feeling that they are not gay and they have to state this and then also dislike anyone who is gay. Can't they just accept that they know what it feels like because that's natural but they still have every bit of their free will and natural right to be able to choose what they prefer or what don't, whether they find one attractive or not? I just feel like I see them all the time reacting nagatively towards these feelings and it tells me that they've always done that since they first experienced attraction. This is what creates a self-perpetuating shame cycle. When they see an expression that reminds them of their natural humanity they direct their stored shame towards the innocent. Because when they are reminded of it they feel all the same shame that they themselves created upon first realization and denied to themselves. Blaming others instead. How do we stop this?