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This is a follow-up question but more detailed.

I am part of a group on facebook which was dedicated to something which a store gave out on Black Friday. One year, this store failed to give this item out. Someone who lost their loved one started a petition which was featured on a certain cable news channel which is constantly bashed. But I digress.

I befriended this person, she was in a relationship. Last Thanksgiving she and I started talking a lot about things and would talk every night (she moved to the other coast to start fresh). So it was a lot of long sleepless night but it was worth it. She stopped talking to me for a week because she didn't want the long distance thing. But a week or two later, she came back to talk to me.

A few weeks ago, the person she ran away from contacted her saying he "found" something of hers. After that contact, everything went south.. way.. way.. south.

We were planning a marriage, we were planning everything. We had an immediate connection. Like we were friends forever. Like she was a missing piece in a puzzle in life. Someone who is an amazing person.

With the breaks on that, did I invest too much into this too fast? Did her past rear its ugly head for a reason? was she lying to me about the ex because she is not over him?

Editors Note: I been in many long distance relationships, reason being, living in an area which is a big fish in a small pond, and everyone knows everyone else. You speak to someone on the street, they are so-and-so's cousin who you went to school with 22 years ago, and that person knows someone you met in the grocery store the other day.

I am comfortable in long distance relationships because that is all I ever known. So basically I sent her jewelry, stuff for her iphone, and other things. I am on a limited income but I did this just because my heart is big. I am stupid because this ALWAYS HAPPENS TO ME. My heart is on my sleeve always.


What do I do?